Entire universe is filled with people with dreams, realistic ones too, who never do shit about it. I talk to people in my travels all the time, who say things like "oh yea that's on my bucket list!" And it's something trivial that thousands of people do daily, something they could go do RIGHT NOW. But American Idol is on later or the playoffs so they don't do it, and list grows and grows and grows!
You are 100000% right, not just about take care of dick and dick takes care of you, but this is for your heart and mind and spirit too! Maybe you guys know a kid who tried something once then quit, forgoing a possible lifelong hobby or talent or career. I taught my kids that if it's in your mind or your heart, get up in there and learn everything you can about the thing, but GO DO IT! In my plants, there are guys who think of themselves as this kind of guy or that kind of guy, always turning down stretch tasks I or one of their managers might give them. Can't imagine being that kind of person. People who follow my posts or know me in real life know that I have done literally everything I've ever wanted to do. I know things about all kinds of things. I might be the only company owner who can do every single thing in all my plants, not only CAN but WILL, and I have pictures of myself doing all these things.
To this point, in Army we had procedure to commit to "microgoals". So every day, you set some small goal that might stretch your mind or body or endurance or mental state. In Army, it's the routine PT everyone does, like running, pushups, and so on. Is easy to win, but it sure is glorious to start every single day with some wins. People who wake up to their alarm and have to speed to work because they're late (and now at the mercy of every other person in the universe) and spill their coffee and tie their tie wrong and all the things, I don't understand this kind of people. Set some goals you can hit and then hit them. I lift at 0400 every morning. Every single morning. I lift, then I either run treadmill or ride the Peloton. I set a goal, better than last time, then achieve it. And I enjoy this power all day long. May be a thousand other men doing same thing but doing better than me, but this is goal I set for me and I achieved it and tomorrow I will do more.
In my life, there was a thing that happened to me when I was 12 that made me into this kind of person that would never have bucket list longer than say 2 or 3 items. I had heard about my grandfather's exploits during the war, he was an officer with the Fallschirmjäger, German Army paratroopers. When he joined, the war had no started, and most countries did not use paratroopers in any meaningful way. He said a much older man, his commander, said to the men while preparing for their first jump: "The greasy Italians have done this kind of jump for ten years now (since about 1925 or so), and even those stupid Russians have been doing it, so of course you can do this. Now, men, jump!" Is a simple thing, which influenced his entire life and on his mentoring, influenced mine too. If other men can do this, I can do this. When I was 12, I heard grandfather tell this story, and I said I'd like to do that, but I don't know if I can. Grandfather became somewhat angry with me, as he often did when we would display some kind of weakness like we are afraid to do something that so many lesser men have already done. A huge life lesson. First time I did a jump, a plane jump, in jump school, I called grandfather (I had already been parachuting with him at local airstrips for a few years by this point), and he was so nonplussed, to imply to me that this was not impressive, because thousands or maybe even millions of men have been doing this thing for almost 70 years by that point. And he was right on that account.
I think children today whose parents either don't let them take chances or are there to always clean up when things don't go perfectly, at the ready with a participation trophy and a Pizza Hut personal pan pizza to eat, five feet away from the real winners who actually earned the prize, these children grow up into weak adults; I have many of these in my employ, they melt into a puddle of goo any time any thing does not go exactly as expected, and they have precisely zero skill at any problem solving, because parents either did it for them or just told them it's ok to quit. Is ok to LOSE, but is NEVER EVER ok to quit. I've been in many fist fights, some I initiated, some that were forced on me, and I did no win every one. But I never ever quit. For me, not doing things that you want to do is worse than trying and failing!
They say that all the shots you don't take are misses, and this is true. Especially your pal, with so much going for him, he might be in reality better than 80% of all men in the world, and yet he does not take chance to do things that so so so many of them do in routine!
For mongering, I love to take the dice roll over appointment. I take the gals and the shops that everyone is convinced are HE only. I take the gals no one likes. If mongering in general doesn't give you confidence, I don't know what would. First it's illegal, so doing it and not going to the jail is already a victory. Baby Jesus says no to do this if you are married, you do it and nothing happens, super power! You know your wife will divorce you and take all your money, but you do anyway, and nothing happens, super super power! I mean, what other pursuit are you nearly guaranteed success, despite the US Government, Baby Jesus, your wife, and a stranger who doesn't speak English, all your opponents, in your way! Would be like going down to Eagles facility and declaring that you're the new starting linebacker, then tackling everyone in the building and leaving with a contract. Might be one of the best parts of life, to satisfy the mitochondria in our cells, demanding that we impregnate every female we see. Men who live their entire life without this joy, I don't know how they do it.
Sometimes, and I know this is super corny, when I leave an AMP where it was supposed to be HE only but that old lady rimmed me and let me cum on her face, I might play this song in my car...
