Whether one dates a pro or civilian we're paying with money , time , emotions etc.
Many don't understand sex is never free from any woman.
You engage with a pro obviously money.
Sex with a civilian expectation to hangout with her and all her emotions 24/7.
Every spa girl is offering her body for money.
Sometimes preferred or better looking customers receive extra time or more bang for their money from a provider.
However, all about the Benjamin's.
I believe the key is what you say at the beginning: every relationship--and I mean EVERY one, not just romantic or sexual ones--is paid for with some mix of money, time, and emotions. It the people involved agree on the right formula among those three things, then the relationship is probably good and can endure. When they don't, there is trouble.
Over time the payment formula can certainly change, and that is when we here on this discussion start using different words like "customer" or "dating". Usually I have found the transition is gradual, not abrupt.
I spend an hour with a woman, i give her $$, she gives me time. There is almost no emotion in the relationship.
The next time I add a small does of emotion, maybe I ask how she has been or smile at her more or bring a small gift of fruit, etc. She responds by adding a few extra minutes or a little extra real enthusiasm and a sincere hug.
A few more meetings, time and emotion added via texts or phone calls in between. After a while i am giving her a different mix of money/time/emotion, and so is she. So long as the two of us agree it is fair, we keep seeing each other. In all or outcall or in public is not the defining factor, but often a symptom of where the exchange had morphed to.
And so long as the two people agree, I usually feel it is not my place to tell them that their exchange rate is wrong, or that I need to give it a name to compartmentalize them.
The lady I care most about right now is getting a large dose of $ as part of our relationship, because that is what she needs now. At other times I have given her no money, but more in other ways because that iswhat she needed then.
I have enjoyed reading these discussions, but feel we sometimes try to put rigid definitions on things that are very fluid and personal.