Providers you would date

i also took a girl out of the lineup for a period of time. thou im not with her anymore. she was early in the game, also the saving type, but had no other choice to have this lifestyle, at times they do regret it, and they want a way out. we talked about moving together, marriage and even kids.

she is a popular one, she would get constant text messages during the day from guys with daily offers, same rates as popular indies. i couldnt match the offers she was getting but she wasnt taking any. i trusted her 100% that she wasnt seeing other guys.

i wont say the reason why we arent together anymore, but some of the girls are a keeper. they work hard and go through a lot.. treat them well~

First thing I did was buy her a new phone and we worked together to remove all the customers from her WeChat. Blocked them all, deleted conversations, blocked phone numbers, etc., and I have access to it at all times and check periodically. She agreed to it beforehand to establish trust between us. It’s worked out well and she remains open and honest.

Lol

Ok time for me to say some things. I was close to having two different , different points in time gfs in this hobby with an escort. One was years ago. She left the popular place she was at and worked at a more low key spot . Said she did it for me . How sweet lol. I almost went through with it. What does it is the free sex it makes you think you are special to them. Now are you? To an extent you are if it happens several times for free. Now with this girl she was too popular and i can't make someone my gf who even if she doesnt want to be or acknowledge it has to have become jaded to some capacity . This life fucks with their brains and it in fact should cause they are human . No matter how hard they try and act strong minded and tough independent Women they are still human beings with emotions. I couldn't keep that fling or hook up whatever i would classify it going. She would tell me she stopped doing this and that with everyone else even offered to stop. I wasnt buying it and i had to stop seeing her.

2nd time this other girl was even more into getting this relationship started. The cook for you and sleep after sex the wanting to go shopping together and not spend my money but we pay for ourselves even offered to pay for an outfit online she liked for me . All sounds great and it is cool but they all eventually want more. They want you to look at them as non damaged and i can't. Can they do the same and look at me as damaged.....absolutely. That's their right.

Like some have said , have fun live in the moment. See em outside and fuck him have a fun time however never attempt to make them your gf. Also if you end it first they may always come back and be drawn to you.

Keep convincing yourself -lol.

Great thesis and spot on.

As has been said here often, at least by some, they're human.

I found the concept of this to be beyond sketchy in the past but I've actually found a great middle ground with a few young providers. I would not call it "dating" (i.e. we are not exclusive or even remotely committed to one another) as much as it is experiencing some side rendevouz outside of their working environment.

Some range from a seemingly genuine liking of each other's company where we'd grab food and drinks outside of a session, but still keeping it purely transactional. For others we'd mess around no strings attached as two normal people, but nothing exchanged and no expectations passed on each other.

Even when it is still transactional, it's great bc their menus open up after having built up that trust. And payment can vary wildly too with some taking less bc they're doing it under the books of an agency and still get to keep more.

we were open about everything, she would show me all her messages, all platforms, imessage, line, katalk, wechat, i also knew her iphone passcode. it was mutual. im the jealous type, she gets tons of compliments and looks while we were out, guys dont even care im next to her.. but she was as jealous as me, and always wanted to know who i was having dinner with while out, what time i got off work, etc.

she would get daily offers of 5-10k + airfare from guys asking to come see them, she never traveled while she was with me and she also stayed at my place for days at times. a part of me actually felt bad that she was forgoing all that cash. but its not like i wouldnt buy her anything, i spent ridiculous amount of money too and also gave her a cc, but she could easily earn more money on her own

writing this brought too many memories.. she still in the business, but we dont talk or never went to see her again since we broke up

Get over her shes a pro.

Dude guys will look at your GF or wife even if youre around. Like look back when passing by. This is normal by all means, I even this this very lightly.

Now if you're saying guys knowingly approach when you"re with her then thats disrespect and you should stand your ground.

i dont wanna get into details, but do you guys really would get into a fight over this? they got nothing to lose, one dude literally wanted to fight me while we were having dinner..

Dating a provider kinda throws every normal rules of a relationship out the window. Its definitely a very grey area to be in.

I totally get what some of you guys are saying regarding looking at them as damaged goods and getting over the fact of what they have to do as a job, as well as who they have to do it with. We as mongers still get a choice regarding the girls we see and can even leave if we're not happy with the situation we're in, but the girls don't have that luxury.

Everyone's damaged in some ways, i guess it really just comes down to if the pros outweighs the cons in the relationship. Or maybe it would be best to just keep everything casual and not get too involved.

Agreed i was with my ex this year or last yeat at a lounge in Newark with her and her friends had to put my arm across another dude to back up off my ex . Told him she's with me . His friends came over ,bouncers came over made a bigger deal of it then it needed to be.

Over someone looking at my GF? No. If you fight its a sign of insecurity on your end. It's basically you can look but can't touch.

"Cause they're addicted, to what my dick did. The pleasure and pain the wing-ding inflicted"

Addicted to Franklins always dicks a “ dime a dozen” for provider’s.

I went out with a couple on occasions. While they were still working at the AMP. It wasn’t a serious. It was fun, but they both complained a lot, and I mean a lot. They were always tired. And wanted you to drive them around on errands. The plus was, I got some good pussy while it lasted. … lol

that is why I named my D Franklin...

I used to see an extremely well-reviewed Latina (I mean one of the best ever) provider after she officially retired in late 2019 and then came back to NYC in the fall of 2020 after the relationship for which she retired unfortunately failed (dude went back to his wife after promising her the world). We had fantastic weekly dates during which we routinely did everything that wasn’t on her provider menu and discussed including my wife many times. She seemed skeptical, primarily because I don’t think she really believed that my wife would be ok with it. The first time we actually made plans, she was a no-show and apologized with some legit-sounding excuse. The next time, we finally managed to connect and it was a great time...they got along great and there was no better sight in my memory than just watching them both on the bed together for a while, looking like twins from behind (same body type and coloring and size) and we all did everything you could possibly do with 6 female orifices and 1 dude.

She was a little strange though...less friendly and conversational with me than usual and she left much earlier than we expected. I never said anything, but I was actually hoping she and my wife might become friends and hang out together. She stopped responding to my texts after that except one time when she just responded to my saying that I hoped she was ok and that I’d really like to see her with “yes, I miss our dates” and she never replied again after that. We really enjoyed one another’s company and I genuinely liked and cared about her; and other than speculating that maybe she had feelings for me and never believed I was really married, I really have no clue what killed it, because she and my wife got along just great, both talking and in bed.