Jaded providers

[AsacSchrader]

Leaving out names. But I saw a girl a year ago at one of the popular Japanese spots. Despite her lack of English, I had a great time. Had genuine conversation, talked about anime and games, and other pop culture. She told me about her upbringing and family, and what led her into this industry. How she felt doing this sort of work, and she opened up about it with some level of honesty. Overall I could tell she was genuine, and she enjoyed the conversation — or maybe she’s just a great actress.
Regardless her service was exceptional. Enthusiastic, lustful, with an aim to satisfy.

Recently saw her again and she was borderline robotic. Went through the motions. Very little discourse. Reserved, and content with laying there with no eye contact or enthusiasm. She didn’t remember me but I remembered her, and she was astonished at my memory, but despite it she was largely out of it. I tried to make convo but she responded in small sentences or one word answers. She did not want to talk about herself at all. I suspect she’s on anti-depressants or ozempic.

Can’t say that I’m disappointed. I enjoyed being around such a beautiful woman, but I really did miss the connection even if it was largely in my head. It’s actually sad to see the depths this industry can drag these women into.

I know some of you will tell me not to get attached. I’m trying. But being in this game for so long I don’t even care about the pleasure as much. Instead it’s the human connection and understanding which comes with it.

 

[Black_Noir]

Seem like you want more. Why dont you simply meet a regular woman and make a REAL connection?

The "connection" in an session is fake.

Please understand that this is fake. What the providers tell you is a lie.

 

[Georgebensen]

depends how much money you spend. they can really make you feel special. i see it as an actress playing a role. they need SAG cards for sex workers.

 

[krideynyc]

Some of us choose to date them just because of the need for "connection". Best to limit it to dating just to have fun outside of her "job".

 

[AsacSchrader]

I understand it’s fake. At least part of me thinks so. The broader point I wanted to make, regardless if it’s fake, it was sad to see her personality switch from enthusiastic into mechanical and sterile. It took only a single year to break this girl down.

 

[londoner]

Maybe she was having a good day when you first met her and this time around something happened in life, with family or she's just having a bad day. I'm sure we've all had days when we had to work no matter what was going in life even tho working is the last thing we felt like doing. Work is work and they are just regular people after all.

 

[Vader]

they need SAG cards for sex workers.

Please no because then they will want royalties every time you think about the fun you had lol.

 

[Black_Noir]

I understand it’s fake. At least part of me thinks so. The broader point I wanted to make, regardless if it’s fake, it was sad to see her personality switch from enthusiastic into mechanical and sterile. It took only a single year to break this girl down.

And why are you losing sleep over a stranger you don't know?

Again, this is fake sex. The act is real but it's overall fake because there's no emotion involved. Having sex with someone with emotions is different. It's not real, the quicker you realize this the sooner you would let this situation go with this provider.

 

[Sillyputty426]

Regular work isn’t easy. Imagine how much more mentally taxing this is when you’re being so intimate with your clientele, and trying to accommodate their desires via this type of customer service. Couple that with the reviews that judge performance and appearance, and the societal judgement, and you have a recipe for the deterioration of mental health.

Some enjoy this work. Some have the mental fortitude to hang. Some have options outside of this type of work. Some have well defined goals. If you have neither of these this work will be difficult, especially if you fell into it as necessity.

 

[Blixen]

I hear you.
OP isn’t looking for a girlfriend. He’s bemoaning the loss of innocence of a young woman in this biz. I’m certain this progression happens to a significant percentage of new girls, some of whom don’t feel they can leave for whatever reason.

With some girls the gf experience may be entirely a clever act which they skillfully manage, but with some the talk and cuddling is a genuine connection, albeit one that ends at the hour’s mark.
When that’s completely extinguished for a girl who cannot emotionally handle the numbers of mongers poking, pawing and dirty-talking, then she becomes a casualty of the amp-world.
Yeah, sure she should leave; but it’s sad to see youth replaced by cynical apathy so early in a girl’s life.

 

[PhillyJimi]

Most of us have had days at work where we are out of it and going thru the motions.

I know of a few AMP gals that hit the Casinos all night and come back for work the next day. They can be zombies the next day. Some are stuck in a bad cycle. Of working, pissing away all their money at the casinos, going broke and working the next day chasing their loses. Couple that with heavy drinking, it can get really bad. The politicians talk about "the exploitation" of these ladies, my 1st hand experience is the Casinos are the worse. A 1 night drinking/drug bender and they can blow a few hundred dollars. A rough night at the casino and blowing $50,000+ is not unheard of, especially when they start chasing loses.

Then I have meet other gals who are pros. They have set their money aside and save it. Sure they have nice things, like an expensive handbag, a nice watch and clothes but they are foolish with their money. Some can retire comfortably in 10-15 years, after working about only 9 months our of the year. That said the lure of fast easy money usually drags them back at some point. There is always some knuckle head in the family that F's up something and they need money. Or an aging parent needs extra care. I have encounters a few who support their family.

If you really like a gal and she is having a bad day, treat her extra nice. If you see her again she will remember you and most likely treat you better. Sometimes it was the customer 2 customers ahead of you, that was a giant A-hole. I saw an old favorite once and she was in a foul mood, 3 guys before her flaked out on their appointments and she lost 4 customers that day because the walk up customers who asked for her, went with another girl and she got nothing. Mentally she was just pissed off and wasn't able to flip the switch back on. Of course it wasn't my problem and I did nothing wrong, but I understand they are human. It was okay. I calmed her down after about 15 minutes. In the end I left a very happy man.

 

[NycHentaiguy]

Lol the connection is what’s dangerous. I had to step away from the hobby cause of that reason lol. I like familiarity with a provider so I make it a habit to stop seeing someone once I feel to attached .. think 3 providers did that for me that and they taking too much of my money LOl

 

[AsacSchrader]

Maybe she was having a good day when you first met her and this time around something happened in life, with family or she's just having a bad day. I'm sure we've all had days when we had to work no matter what was going in life even tho working is the last thing we felt like doing. Work is work and they are just regular people after all.

Unfortunately no this isn't it. Evidence suggests this girl hasn't been performing well this year. She was a fixture for months at a shop a year ago. This year she was only at that shop for a few days before being moved to another at a cheaper price, before embarking on a domestic tour through multiple cities.
I don't know how they operate things, but this type of movement suggests she isn't performing well.

Regular work isn’t easy. Imagine how much more mentally taxing this is when you’re being so intimate with your clientele, and trying to accommodate their desires via this type of customer service. Couple that with the reviews that judge performance and appearance, and the societal judgement, and you have a recipe for the deterioration of mental health.

Some enjoy this work. Some have the mental fortitude to hang. Some have options outside of this type of work. Some have well defined goals. If you have neither of these this work will be difficult, especially if you fell into it as necessity.

I really feel for these ladies and have a tremendous amount of respect for them. To put on an act of genuine love and affection, to the point where customers fall smitten sounds painstaking difficult. And to put this act on multiple times a day, everyday, for months on end while being restricted to a tiny bedroom in some random building halfway across the world. Would certainly drive many mad.

I hear you.
OP isn’t looking for a girlfriend. He’s bemoaning the loss of innocence of a young woman in this biz. I’m certain this progression happens to a significant percentage of new girls, some of whom don’t feel they can leave for whatever reason.

With some girls the gf experience may be entirely a clever act which they skillfully manage, but with some the talk and cuddling is a genuine connection, albeit one that ends at the hour’s mark.
When that’s completely extinguished for a girl who cannot emotionally handle the numbers of mongers poking, pawing and dirty-talking, then she becomes a casualty of the amp-world.
Yeah, sure she should leave; but it’s sad to see youth replaced by cynical apathy so early in a girl’s life.

Thank you for clearly stating my point.

 

[Mampr]

3 providers did that for me that and they taking too much of my moneyl

Would it be more accurate to say you voluntarily gave them too much of your money?

 

[londoner]

Unfortunately no this isn't it. Evidence suggests this girl hasn't been performing well this year. She was a fixture for months at a shop a year ago. This year she was only at that shop for a few days before being moved to another at a cheaper price, before embarking on a domestic tour through multiple cities.
I don't know how they operate things, but this type of movement suggests she isn't performing well.



I really feel for these ladies and have a tremendous amount of respect for them. To put on an act of genuine love and affection, to the point where customers fall smitten sounds painstaking difficult. And to put this act on multiple times a day, everyday, for months on end while being restricted to a tiny bedroom in some random building halfway across the world. Would certainly drive many mad.



Thank you for clearly stating my point.

some events, especially traumatic, affect people long term, so if something traumatic did happen to her, I can see how it would change her disposition in the longrun. Hopefully nothing happened, she's in it of her own free will and she just got jaded tho

 

[AsacSchrader]

some events, especially traumatic, affect people long term, so if something traumatic did happen to her, I can see how it would change her disposition in the longrun. Hopefully nothing happened, she's in it of her own free will and she just got jaded tho

I hope so as well. I believe it was her first exposure to this type of work last year. She was a really sweet girl.