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What you do when you fall in love with massage girl

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Much of what is being said in this thread proves to some extent that men need, want or desire an emotional connection almost as much as women, it’s not enough to visit a parlor for a good shower, massage, wank or balls deep in pussy, men want more than just the physical too.
Absolutely, and those women who make the effort to make you feel for those 60 minutes that "youre the one" they do get my attention. And I have been fortunate, for that I am grateful. It is why I hobby now and then.
 

TGBeldin

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The stories are far too long and meandering to tell. Buy me a beer or coffee and I will gladly talk all night about them. ;)

The very short version: in 40+ years it has happened twice. In both cases it developed slowly from friendship to love, after I had known the person for years. The two were different in a lot of ways. The common factor was thatthe sex was good, but the person was better.
 

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I’m not judging anyone by the way, it’s bound to happen or happen at least once with a provider you have on a consistent basis, it may have taken time to develop a romantic or love interest.
For some guys, it may be the best sex in their life., she gives you exactly what you like and how you like it.
 

haaretz

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I’m not judging anyone by the way, it’s bound to happen or happen at least once with a provider you have on a consistent basis, it may have taken time to develop a romantic or love interest.
For some guys, it may be the best sex in their life., she gives you exactly what you like and how you like it.
Ha! I have no interest in ruining the best sex in my life by falling in love with my companion.
Last year my CF told me that she loved me, in a casual way. I took it in stride, continued to see her on the same consistent basis. She's hinted at hanging out OTC a few times, but it's just talk on her part. Marketing. Teasing.
If I were close in age to her, single, yada yada, it'd be different.
 

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It can happen in a spa, just like it happens in the workplace. But in the spa, it gets really murky fast, because you’re already having sex.

But I’d treat it the same way.

At work if you get interested/develop affection for a girl you should ask her out, and if she says no, you stay away from her. You’re gonna end up as part of me too if you don’t.

Same at spa, except you get banned from spas, and manipulated as a loser, not called out in me too.

Express your feelings, your willingness to date. If she says no, move on, including not going to that spa, if you can’t handle seeing her. More likely though she’ll string you along, to milk you as a customer, assuming she’s not really interested. Set a timeline (like a month) and walk away at the end, if you’re seriously in love with her, but she hasn’t responded in kind. It’s too messy.
 

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Love is simple, retaining a long term relationship is time, money, effort and compromise. If you are married and in this hobby for a good massage and relaxing hour, then you should already know this. If you are single and interested in finding a life partner, then you had better learn this or you will be on the revolving door of relationships your entire life.
 

Srhsrh

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Love is simple, retaining a long term relationship is time, money, effort and compromise. If you are married and in this hobby for a good massage and relaxing hour, then you should already know this. If you are single and interested in finding a life partner, then you had better learn this or you will be on the revolving door of relationships your entire life.
I think if you are married, you have to be laser focused on keeping the relationship under control. I'm no marriage expert, but I've heard many times from other couples stories about a fling in the office, or discovery of seeing escorts is a recoverable event to a marriage. deciding that you love another woman, seeing a spa girl regularly, funding an apartment, etc. are events that lead to termination of a marriage when discovered. There does seem to be a dont ask, dont tell kinda relationships in the suburbia I live in. older, long married couples, plenty of signs that the guy is playing, the girl just doesn't want to be embarrassed or put into a situation where she is forced to discover it. If you. are married, and you get involved in a long term loving relationship with a spa girl, eventually your wife will find out.

for single guys meeting spa girls and dating them doesn't seem to be any worse to me, than meeting girls in a bar, or SA. But you need to think through how you feel about her continuing her work, while the relationship develops. I've been involved in long term relationships with spa girls twice, and both times I chose to take the girl off the market early, and replace her income with some sort of plan, while the relationship grows. Most of these girls can't do any other sort of work, but they can take classes to get certified, and some of them can run a business. Or step downwards from an FS spa to a therapeutic one.

But I think thats a big difference from a "normal" girl with a career. If you leave her in the shop too long, it is going to poison the relationship. If you impoverish her, she will freak out and finds ways to make UTC money. The closer she is to that peak earning age (25-35) the more likely that it is she won't leave the business until you have totally committed to her and she can see a real potential for marriage.

the other thing to remember about this business, is that it isn't like other jobs, where a gap in your career is a warning sign to a potential employer. these girls can take a few months off if they want, and then jump right back where they were, assuming they are flexible for location. SO if you like each other, and she wants to move in, let her. I dont buy any of the BS about spa girls being more dishonest, lazy, crazy than normal girls. except in good ways.
 

KittyHawk

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All good advice guys, thanks. The focus has been on relationships with an FS provider. Any thoughts on something possibly developing with an R&T provider who is not likely to go FS.
 

haaretz

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I think if you are married, you have to be laser focused on keeping the relationship under control. I'm no marriage expert, but I've heard many times from other couples stories about a fling in the office, or discovery of seeing escorts is a recoverable event to a marriage. deciding that you love another woman, seeing a spa girl regularly, funding an apartment, etc. are events that lead to termination of a marriage when discovered. There does seem to be a dont ask, dont tell kinda relationships in the suburbia I live in. older, long married couples, plenty of signs that the guy is playing, the girl just doesn't want to be embarrassed or put into a situation where she is forced to discover it. If you. are married, and you get involved in a long term loving relationship with a spa girl, eventually your wife will find out.

for single guys meeting spa girls and dating them doesn't seem to be any worse to me, than meeting girls in a bar, or SA. But you need to think through how you feel about her continuing her work, while the relationship develops. I've been involved in long term relationships with spa girls twice, and both times I chose to take the girl off the market early, and replace her income with some sort of plan, while the relationship grows. Most of these girls can't do any other sort of work, but they can take classes to get certified, and some of them can run a business. Or step downwards from an FS spa to a therapeutic one.

But I think thats a big difference from a "normal" girl with a career. If you leave her in the shop too long, it is going to poison the relationship. If you impoverish her, she will freak out and finds ways to make UTC money. The closer she is to that peak earning age (25-35) the more likely that it is she won't leave the business until you have totally committed to her and she can see a real potential for marriage.

the other thing to remember about this business, is that it isn't like other jobs, where a gap in your career is a warning sign to a potential employer. these girls can take a few months off if they want, and then jump right back where they were, assuming they are flexible for location. SO if you like each other, and she wants to move in, let her. I dont buy any of the BS about spa girls being more dishonest, lazy, crazy than normal girls. except in good ways.

Ya oughta be a counselor to guys who are thinking about this issue. No kidding. To married guys as well. Well said
 

Koujiao

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First and for most, They are not all like that. If you fall I love with that kind of girl, yes, run.
Look for the real type look for that jem. I’ve had about 3-4 relationships anywhere from 7 months to a year and half. And I’m in one now. She is not a gold digger and is amazing. She is a keeper. So don’t always run, go slow find what you like and focus.
I know, i know....'They' are perfect. Good luck with your future wife.
 

DannyG

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What you do when you fall in love with massage girl?

As with any addiction, you slowly begin to isolate yourself, this secret P4P life can at times overwhelm your normal, personal life, unless you or I have like minded friends in our life the only discussion outlet is this or other provider sites. As someone already mentioned, it’s easy or inevitable to develop strong feelings for a provider since sex is occurring.
 

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Is having feelings of great affection or love for a spa girl (or her for you) that much different than the same for Miss Round Heels that is not only doing your school's football team, but the opposing team as well? At least the spa girl has a cash flow.
 

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We saw spiderman today! It is a really good movie! I wont spoil it! It is about love :) Everyone should see it! It will make you laugh, make you cry, and take your mind back to when you were in high school! The world is not yet saved but there is hope! You will like it. Go see it.

Happy 4th!
 

AutomaticSlim

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We saw spiderman today! It is a really good movie! I wont spoil it! It is about love :) Everyone should see it! It will make you laugh, make you cry, and take your mind back to when you were in high school! The world is not yet saved but there is hope! You will like it. Go see it.

Happy 4th!

Same to you KG, same to you. Have a great one.
 

Ampme

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“What you do when you fall in love with massage girl?

1. You smother her
2. Cause problems between her and owner/mamasan
3. Cause her to change shops, without notice
4. You visit her to often, more often than she really wants
5. You make her feel dirty, she’s ok doing what she does, but you attempt to love her, save her, rescue her, she doesn’t want to be rescued
6. You insert yourself into her life, she plays along, its her job, although you can’t differentiate
7. You cause her to treat you cold, you want something more and she just wants to earn a living.
8. You become isolated, you think about her everyday, all day
9. You spend money you really can’t afford, to see her
10. You are labeled by mamasan/provider, they have a special name for you, not a flattering one either

When a customer inserts himself into the life of a provider he does so selfishly, she can’t reject you as harshly as she typically would otherwise, since you insert yourself where she works, during her job, she depends on her return customer for earnings, she wants a decent tip, you attempt to include your heart, this places her in a very difficult situation. She eventually moves to another shop or city even, she’s happy until you find out where she’s relocated to and you once again insert yourself. You feel like she’s lying to you, as if she owes you something and has to be completely honest and forthcoming to you, she has a husband or at least one boyfriend, and you are neither to her. To her face and while you are alone, you speak well of her, to another monger you speak ill about her trying to mask your feelings. Your make believe rabbit hole wishes to kick you out, except you won’t look yourself in the mirror and come to terms with yourself. The fantasy becomes your life, no one but you is aware of it.
You become less productive, the addiction to her is overwhelming you.
Thank you.
 

Freddy

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I will start. She is the most beautiful girl in the world. I dont know why other than to say she is perfect in every way. She is sweet, smart, and sexy! I will never meet a girl like her! I am so thankful she is my friend! It is all I can do :)
Just an observation on my
This happens. Lets discuss how, why, and what you do and your experience when it happend to you:)
Just an observation on my part, does a guy believe himself in “love” with a provider, knowing full well there isn’t a chance or the threat of a real, commitment?
 

TGBeldin

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The issue is your last assumption, "there isn't a chance of a real commitment". That is just not a correct assumption. For those who do not take it as a basic truth, there is belief that a relationship might sometimes develop (not as often as some would like it to occur).
 
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