I had a weird interaction the other day. I used to see a provider for massage and HE about once every two weeks for years. Due to language barrier we never really talked. It was a good relationship where we did the same routine everytime. She never deviated from massage and HE, maybe some roaming but that was it. She never tried to hang out with me outside of our sessions or exchange numbers. Due to circumstances I abruptly stopped seeing her and moved out of the state for a decade. I finally came back for a visit and decided to go see her. At first she didn’t recognize me but once I said hello and that we haven’t seen each other in years, she remembered me, my name and even the approximate time I last saw her. When the massage started, she stopped and embraced me, and started kissing me on the lips and told me how great it was to see me again. Without thinking, I blurted out that I missed her (because I did since she was a constant for years), and she said the same, and we continued our hug. During the massage, she gave me CBJ and FIV which was never on the menu in the past. I’ve never had such a weird human moment with a provider where we both stepped out of our roles as provider and monger. Maybe it was some of the hardships the pandemic forced upon us the past few years or maybe we reminded each other of younger times. Anyways, I wouldn’t say I’m in love with her or that I have any feelings towards her, but in that moment there was an exchange of actual emotion between us that was temporarily not transactional, and it felt nice.
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falling in love with a provider
- Thread starter millionarekt
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So whatever happened with this dude? Always have to remember, providers are there to ear a living. The reality of a deeper relationship would probably not look like the leverl of service/affection, etc you currently receive. I can see this easily happening though. Providers can be very charming and alluring.
.. interesting point Rockrr.. you must have some experience… from mine I find that SO relationships with providers evolve into fairly normal ones similar to those we have with Civies.. day to day routines ..however, Providers are better companions, homemakers and always make sure to take care of their Man … even if they aren’t in the mood… but don’t expect PSE every time.. lol.. unless they are nympho.. and that can get old fast .. big LoL
It's not uncommon. I was seeing a provider for HE for weeks/months. No English whatsoever. When I tried to get extras, she always pushed me away. Then I got to FIV, and she seemed grateful. Getting to "third base" became our routine. Eventually she moved to another spa. Months later, I followed her. From the first visit at her new spa, it was as much as I wanted, for up to 90 minutes. Not sure what changed. Freedom to work unrestricted at the new location? Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Curiosity to see how far I would go? Whatever changed, now we enjoy each other. I still pay her $$$. I'm thinking about requesting an overnight...
I have a similar experience with an ATF. At times, I feel like a real friend, and get real warmth back, which relaxes me. I am so happy. At other times, I am totally on the clock, and looked at with suspicion of trying to get more for less. I like her very much, and can deal with it overall. There has been some real nice times. I am not a potential boyfriend or husband, but hope I've reached a nicer place then just another customer.
The same here. It's saranghae city with my adorable clockwatcher CF until there's 20 minutes left, and then I'm processed and out the door before the hour is up. And the few times over the past five years that it's gotten close to the hour she's gotten stressed and more formal about things, why bother there are many other ladies who like steady clients.
It's more how they manage/stomach the illusion of intimacy than anything else.
It's more how they manage/stomach the illusion of intimacy than anything else.
"It's more how they manage/stomach the illusion of intimacy than anything else."
Very astute thought.
What am I doing then? Managing the fantasy, and the price.
Yes, they are professionals, lest we forget. I do all the time though. Hoping some real feelings there. Giving gifts, trying to talk.
Bottom line is that if money exchanged, its not a real relationship at all. I don't mind the money part since its really not fair to the girl to hit and run, and leave nothing. There are not that many nymphomaniacs out there after all.
Very astute thought.
What am I doing then? Managing the fantasy, and the price.
Yes, they are professionals, lest we forget. I do all the time though. Hoping some real feelings there. Giving gifts, trying to talk.
Bottom line is that if money exchanged, its not a real relationship at all. I don't mind the money part since its really not fair to the girl to hit and run, and leave nothing. There are not that many nymphomaniacs out there after all.
Hopefully you are able to manage the fantasy and the cost. If money is exchanged, it is a relationship, just a different kind.
“It's more how they manage/stomach the illusion of intimacy than anything else.” And do it with as many as they can in order to maximize their return on the illusion they provide.
“It's more how they manage/stomach the illusion of intimacy than anything else.” And do it with as many as they can in order to maximize their return on the illusion they provide.
It’s a transactional relationship. All intimate relationships involve an exchange of resources and services. And the closest, most intense relationships that I’ve had over the past several years have been with prostitutes.
Our wives would kick us out if we didn’t fork over money every month. Our girlfriends would drop us if we didn’t buy them things and pay for stuff. At least prostitution is more honest.
The winding down of every encounter is instructive reality checking. Read and follow her cues and the fantasy endures for another day. Try to push the session into uncompensated time-no matter how great the tip/gifts are– you’re just another older client who needs to clear the room.
Our wives would kick us out if we didn’t fork over money every month. Our girlfriends would drop us if we didn’t buy them things and pay for stuff. At least prostitution is more honest.
The winding down of every encounter is instructive reality checking. Read and follow her cues and the fantasy endures for another day. Try to push the session into uncompensated time-no matter how great the tip/gifts are– you’re just another older client who needs to clear the room.