How do you hide this hobby from your wife?

[Goodwill.kills]

Make sure you clean the long black hairs out of your underwear! Hard to explain that more than one time, especially if your wife has blonde hair.

 

[PerfectC]

Don't get married in the first place!!

 

[rshackleford]

Not true. If you have the find my network enabled, your phone can be located even when it is turned off for a period of time.

This is what I was worried about

 

[Vader]

Not true. If you have the find my network enabled, your phone can be located even when it is turned off for a period of time.

Unless I am mistaken this is not true. It just shows where your last used it. So if you turn it off at the place it shows' it there but if you shut it off at home it would show you are still at home ect.

 

[camilosomo]

I'm in the hobby only because of my divorce. I never had an issue with my married sex life. I could never have handled visits to providers and acting normally in front of my wife. I have a girlfriend who things aren't going Ideally with. There's another gal who is interested in me and I won't even ask her out until I'm broken up with the current one. I was never good at juggling two women at once. I'm not a good enough liar and feel guilty.

Same here....FInalizing a horrible divorce.

 

[Mrxnewtoy]

Some wives are more suspicious than others. Mine is busy stressing about work and dumb shit. Usually I monger while she’s at work so i can rinse off. Usually I don’t return to providers with perfume. Always turn off shared location. If I get their number it’s stored as a business colleague.

 

[Rutts Hutt]

Same here....FInalizing a horrible divorce.

Horrible and divorce are synonymous. Mine was as good as it can get emotionally and financially.I came away ok because she earned quite more than me. It still put me in an alcoholic depression for years and precipitated my involvement in this hobby. It was exciting fucking different chick's for a while but has rapidly lost its appeal. I'm interested in a relationship again.

 

[mikemendez]

What if SO calls you while your phone is off? She’ll be suspicious for sure, then your explanation will only add to her suspicions, now she’s really gonna look into your activity. It’s amazing how long some guys have been married and their wives still keep them in check.

 

[AmpHunter2021]

Not true. If you have the find my network enabled, your phone can be located even when it is turned off for a period of time.

I didn’t realize this. Good to know.

 

[Mrxnewtoy]

What if SO calls you while your phone is off? She’ll be suspicious for sure, then your explanation will only add to her suspicions, now she’s really gonna look into your activity. It’s amazing how long some guys have been married and their wives still keep them in check.

We call each other all the time and don’t pickup. We both work. You can’t pickup in the middle of an important meeting or call.

 

[Dannywhoop]

Unless I am mistaken this is not true. It just shows where your last used it. So if you turn it off at the place it shows' it there but if you shut it off at home it would show you are still at home ect.

That would be the “send last location” feature. I’m referring to the “find my network” feature which could easily provide info on your location to another user with access to your devices when your phone is powered off as long as there was another iPhone nearby.

 

[mikemendez]

We call each other all the time and don’t pickup. We both work. You can’t pickup in the middle of an important meeting or call.

Different situation when a phone is turned off, it goes directly to voicemail. “ why did you turn your phone off” she’ll definitely ask why, so get your ducks in a row, most women can tell when husband is lying.

 

[Dannywhoop]

Different situation when a phone is turned off, it goes directly to voicemail. “ why did you turn your phone off” she’ll definitely ask why, so get your ducks in a row, most women can tell when husband is lying.

If you have an iPhone and a secondary Apple device (like an iPad), just turn on WiFi calling on that device. It will continue ringing even if your phone is turned off.

 

[Sgtanand]

you gotta see providers who dont wear heavy perfume

alot of mongers on this site avoid perfumed ladies.

if you get a light odor on you....try to find the nearest laundromat. take off outer shirt and/or jacket.

throw them in the dryer for a good 8-10 minutes. should remove the smell.
or eat at subway after your visit,
take your time eating. by the time you leave, you'll be smelling like a footlong BMT

Or have smoke if you don’t find a laundry mat or subway nearby.

 

[Sgtanand]

If you are unfortunate enough to pick up even a light perfume scent, Dawn dishwasher detergent in a hot shower will remove every trace of the scent. It is mild on the skin and extremely effective. Shit, they use the stuff on baby ducks.

Pay attention to your neck area. It’s easy to overlook especially the back of your neck. Girls frequently spray just a touch on their wrists and it transfers when they put their arms around you. Also be attentive to the knee and shin area if you get a lot of RCG action, and your chest if you get straight CG.

As many have stated, if she uses glitter makeup you are fucked.

That’s a valid point…I never thought of that

 

[MidtownCowboy333]

First, don't act suspicious. Stick to your normal routines but find a couple of hours to play within those time slots from time to time (i.e. before heading home from work or "going to the gym").

Turn the text notification off of your home screen of your phone and give every girl a male name in your contacts or an alias similar to what @MidtownCowboy333 said.

I don't use a burner phone personally but I use google voice app with a different number. Sometimes being caught with a second phone can be just as incriminating. Try to create boundaries so that your wife or SO doesn't have access to your phone.

Don't change communication habits while at home...if you are not usually on your phone in front of your wife...don't start doing it non-stop.

Hide your google voice app, Twitter and "client email" within your phone so that it's not glaring someone in the face if they open your phone right away....similar to what @acheron72 stated.

Always take a shower after the session...don't use soap, so you don't smell too fresh after a long day of work.

Here's a few...

Super smart and good point. I did get caught with a second phone many years ago back on the T-Mobile sidekick days. Came home drunk with a sidekick sticking out of my shirt pocket. Before I knew about hobbying it was just a phone for a gf.

she didn’t even have to look at it I was guilty AF. So I never used a burner phone again.

Also I never call I only text. Because calls show up itemized on your bill but texts dont. Your wife is not LE i don’t thibk she can as easily get a list of who you are texting as of who you are calling.

And to cover the smell nothing beats a cigar lounge.

 

[AmpHunter2021]

Super smart and good point. I did get caught with a second phone many years ago back on the T-Mobile sidekick days. Came home drunk with a sidekick sticking out of my shirt pocket. Before I knew about hobbying it was just a phone for a gf.

she didn’t even have to look at it I was guilty AF. So I never used a burner phone again.

Also I never call I only text. Because calls show up itemized on your bill but texts dont. Your wife is not LE i don’t thibk she can as easily get a list of who you are texting as of who you are calling.

And to cover the smell nothing beats a cigar lounge.

If she can get a list of who you’re calling, she can get a list of who you’re texting. A quick Google search would show her who the number belongs to.

 

[856mixr]

Monger in the flow of your daily routine. Going to work? Monger otw back/fourth. Going to visit parents? The same rules apply. Going on a work trip? Even better. Just be prepared for a random check-up call.

 

[crackaddictedbaby]

What do you do to avoid suspicion from your wife?

I’m kinda surprised that there’s hardly any suggestions on how to cover up the shit load of money that’s needed to pay for this hobby. How do you guys hide hundreds and thousands in spending from your wives? If the tables were turned and say my wife was secretly getting botox every 3 months and she was doing all the same stealthly shit as I do to cover up my mongering, I’d find out something is up because it’s kind hard to hide a $600 expense for botox every 3 months. Or if my wife has a secret gambling hobby where she’d blow few hundred a month at the casino or some online poker shit, I think I’d notice that kind of money disappearing and demand an explanation. Am I the only one who’s got to worry about covering up my mongering money trail? I have an elaborate system of strategically timed ATM withdrawals and debit card purchases at stores that allow cash back to siphon off small dollar amounts. Its a really slow fucking way to get the cash I need to support this hobby but I can’t do it any other way without raising suspicion.

 

[solomon_456]

That would be the “send last location” feature. I’m referring to the “find my network” feature which could easily provide info on your location to another user with access to your devices when your phone is powered off as long as there was another iPhone nearby.

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Just turning off your location won’t work?