How do you know she really likes you? (Other than sex)

[Whizzard]

I’ve heard it was 75k (a friend who is married to a Colombian was trying to see if I was interested in that sorta deal) but hell with prices the way they are I would even expect more.

I knew a girl who did it in the 90’s for 5k for a Latino guy. Inflation is a bitch!

You want to weed out an amp girl real quick. Straight away, tell them we date slow in America and date for different reasons than they may. Let em know it will be a long, slow slog for a LTR. If they’re willing to hang around, maybe there’s a chance.

 

[tokyocup]

So what are the unambiguous signals that a woman gives off when she genuinely is ga-ga over you? I added "other than sex" because it is possible for her to love your dick but not you. Or maybe she just loves dick in general? Anyway, just curious to see what members say.

My top signals (in order) are:
1. Willingness to do things for free or, even better, to pay for things, such as meals or consequential gifts. This one is especially important. I have found that if a woman breaks open her piggy bank for you, she is truly over the moon for you.
2. Willingness to accommodate you even if it inconveniences her.
3. The speed at which she answers your routine texts/calls. Obviously, the faster she answers, the more into you she is. Unless you are fighting with her.

Sex. Sandwich. Silence. That’s it.

 

[mikemendez]

How do you know she likes you? it’s many things she does whether you’re present or not. A huge tell is, it’s in her kiss, especially if she hugs you during, doesn’t have to be a long one either or tongue. Another thing is, how she treats you, with respect. I’ve learned Asian girls tend to show love in a way that may be interpreted as liking.

 

[이 회장님]

I’ve had a few amp women tell me, “I don’t want to work (or I cannot focus on working) since I have met you.”

 

[didi88]

She never charges or accepts payment from you for sex when you meet outside the spa

For an AMP girl, this is the ultimate sacrifice, the last barrier to drop. With all the previous steps, she could still be charging, and in doing so, she still might retain some leverage. But once she does it for free, then it generally means she’s into you more than just as a customer. I say “generally” because with some, there could still be ulterior motives which aren’t apparent at the time but show up later (green card, requests for expensive clothes or jewelry, help with debts, rent assistance, etc)

 

[Rx7gringo]

These are all good tips

 

[VJLUTZ]

For an AMP girl, this is the ultimate sacrifice, the last barrier to drop. With all the previous steps, she could still be charging, and in doing so, she still might retain some leverage.

For a woman, her leverage is always her pussy (sex). Even if you have a seemingly ideal relationship, you may do one thing wrong and she can end it by cutting off the sex.

For a man, the ultimate form of commitment to a woman is marriage. That is when you legally take responsibility for a woman + any children you sire with her. If either of you decide to break it off after saying "I do", it will cost you (financially + emotionally)

For a woman, the ultimate form of commitment is her having your child (children). Once she has your child, she is committed to that child for the next 18 years, but really, in some form, for the rest of her life. She is agreeing to propagate your line and all the attendant work + emotional heartache that comes with it. In theory she could put it up for adoption, but that comes with its own set of costs & regrets.

Even if there is a phase in the relationship where the woman is "gaga" over you, that usually happens in the beginning and does not last more than a year. Three years at the outside. Eventually, the honeymoon is over.

I also don't think a woman ever stops leveraging her pussy. As you pointed out, it just takes different forms. If you are unable to fulfill that leverage, she will almost certainly leave you. Maybe 10% or less of women will care for you when you are truly down and out. The vast majority will seek out men who are capable of caring for them at a minimum lifestyle threshold. If you are not up to the job, they will leave. Which is why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

This is pretty dark, but it is what it is.

 

[이 회장님]

For an AMP girl, this is the ultimate sacrifice, the last barrier to drop. With all the previous steps, she could still be charging, and in doing so, she still might retain some leverage. But once she does it for free, then it generally means she’s into you more than just as a customer. I say “generally” because with some, there could still be ulterior motives which aren’t apparent at the time but show up later (green card, requests for expensive clothes or jewelry, help with debts, rent assistance, etc)

I’ve had many amp women refuse money from me. But I still gave it to them. It was my way of telling them, “This is a friends with benefit” relationship so there will be no emotions whatsoever. I make this very clear with all of them.

A few years ago, one amp lady was telling other girls that we were dating. I told her that is not true and ended it.

If any amp woman crosses this line, then I will immediately discontinue the FWB relationship.

 

[mikemendez]

When she buys clothes for you (a shirt) she was thinking about you, best bet is to wear it next time you see her.

 

[camilosomo]

In my experience, there are roughly six stages to a relationship with an AMP girl away from the spa. If you get the first two out these, she's into you. By stage 3 or 4, she's evaluating you for a serious relationship, not as a client. By stage 5 or 6, you're dating and it's no longer a professional relationship.

1. You get lengthy WeChat messages from after her work day has ended asking about how your day was. She's thinking about you. "When are you coming to see me again?" or a "what's going on?" with a few emojis doesn't count.

2. She suggests doing anything outside the spa that doesn't involve sex. Needs a ride somewhere, help with something, etc.

3. She cooks for you, preferably in her own apartment (which is probably shared with a few other AMP girls when they're not living/working at the spa). She's not having sex with you there because there's no privacy.

4. She introduces you to her girlfriends (who she also calls her "sisters") as her "laogong" and warns them that you are off limits (and they respect her instructions) or she takes you out to any social occasion with her non-AMP friends.

5. She buys you clothes because she thinks that you that you will look good in them.

6. She never charges or accepts payment from you for sex when you meet outside the spa, even after you've stopped visiting her at the spa altogether. Same with accepting or asking for any lavish presents (jewelry, handbags, etc.). Also counts if she complains that you're spending too much money on her when you take her out.

As for their motivation, good luck trying to figure that out!

Number 1 for sure. Also she tried to invite some lunch before we got into the action? is that normal?

 

[Rover2020]

Number 1 for sure. Also she tried to invite some lunch before we got into the action? is that normal?

Lunch outside or lunch at her spa? A one on one lunch outside, she's probably trying to get some alone time with you. Maybe she likes you or maybe she needs/wants something and is more comfortable discussing it away from her work.

Lunch at her spa is my favorite, especially when the cook is talented. Some of the best meals I've had have been at spas. Once you've become a regular somewhere and they've had a chance to get to know you, if you show up while they are eating, they will often greet you with a 'have you eaten yet?'

Although I prefer to eat after rather than before the action (eating before always makes me want to take a nap), I find it incredibly relaxing to eat with the girls. You get to see them with their guards down and hear all the gossip about who's coming or going and which customers they like or can't stand. Also, call me crazy, but there's something wonderful about having a good meal surrounded by half-naked women. It also helps if the MMS likes you too.

 

[MidtownCowboy333]

My radar is up all the time because i am old and fat. I am not rich but I am comfortable.

I have a girlfriend twenty-five years younger than me.

She comes from an impoverished third world place but she was doing fine financially. And now i pay for everything but I really feel like it’s not entirely about money.

Any woman should expect her man to support her. I get that. She works she does things but I really think I treat her and respect her in a way that others have not.

I could be wrong, but I feel like it’s in the way she looks at me. And the way she always wants to be with means Nevwr asks for anything.

I might be the dumbest guy alive but I don’t give a shit because i feel great because she makes me feel great.

 

[Rover2020]

I might be the dumbest guy alive but I don’t give a shit because i feel great because she makes me feel great.

In the end, that's all that really matters and don't let anyone tell you any different. It's good that you keep your radar up, as these relationships are even more complicated than relationships with civilians and their motives are not always transparent. Enjoy it while it lasts and always keep your eyes open.

 

[VJLUTZ]

Relationships have a far bigger economic basis than most people want to admit. In many ways, a relationship is like an employee-compensation package. Even if the salary is on the low side, you might stay because the benefits are good, you get along with your boss and a short commute time (or you get to work from home). If your employer starts to shaft you, you start looking for another job. Likewise, if you can't provide for your woman, she will start looking for a better deal and cash out when she finds one.

Sex and attraction are part of the equation, but far from the only thing. It's also much more important early on. It's like the support that holds things together while the concrete hardens. Children also bind you together.

After enough time has passed (20, 25, 30 years), the sex aspect has probably played out, especially on her side. Her ability to leverage sex is just about gone. At that point, It's just two companions who have a shared history and take care of each other. And, of course, if you divorce, she takes you to the cleaners.

 

[Rover2020]

Likewise, if you can't provide for your woman, she will start looking for a better deal.

I think what many women in long term relationships fail to realize is that this works both ways. If they consistently 'fail to provide' for their partner, whether it's sex, emotional intimacy or something else entirely, then their man will find it elsewhere.

 

[VJLUTZ]

If they consistently 'fail to provide' for their partner, whether it's sex, emotional intimacy or something else entirely, then their man will find it elsewhere.

Very true. But statistically, women initiate 80% of divorces. So, they are the ones who typically end it.

The man often does not leave the relationship (which is my situation). Except for the sex part (which stopped with menopause), my wife takes very good care of me. But it works out as I can scratch-my-itch elsewhere. I just keep it as discreet as possible.

 

[TIskier]

And, of course, if you divorce, she takes you to the cleaners.

Unless, of course, your wife makes as much or more than you which is now the typical scenario for young couples. The young professional women whom I work with that are married are all the primary breadwinners. The gender gap in secondary education has been widening, in woman’s favor, for decades now. The future divorce settlements will reflect that difference when Gen Z’s & millennials start their divorce phase of life.

https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-male-college-crisis-is-not-just-in-enrollment-but-completion/

 

[Koujiao]

i remember struggling with this question around 5th or 6th grade, so for those who are still wondering, here you go.

https://lovedevani.com/how-to-know-if-a-girl-likes-you-in-middle-school-6th-grade

https://www.lovepanky.com/men/understanding-women/signs-a-girl-has-a-crush-on-you

 

[MidtownCowboy333]

Very true. But statistically, women initiate 80% of divorces. So, they are the ones who typically end it.

The man often does not leave the relationship (which is my situation). Except for the sex part (which stopped with menopause), my wife takes very good care of me. But it works out as I can scratch-my-itch elsewhere. I just keep it as discreet as possible.

It’s funny. I thought that for a longtime but as we got more and more involved it gets harder add harder. You can only have one Christmas. You can only have one Valentine’s Day.

Emotionally it’s hard to keep it up.

One day she just looked at me and said I don’t want to Dee clients anymore. But now It’s like “but you go home to your wife every night.”

It gets weird. But the thing about the pay might not be great but you stay for the benefits. Genius

 

[didi88]

But now It’s like “but you go home to your wife every night.”

Once there are feelings on her part, then the relationship can pose a dilemma if you’re a married guy. This is true whether the gf is a civvie or an AMP girl. No woman wants to feel like she’s always #2. The idea that you go back to your wife every night might be easier to accept for her early on; but over time and as feelings develop, it becomes harder for her to deal with. Especially if there’s no chance they’ll be a divorce down the line. The money may make it easier to accept, but for some women, they want more commitment. And if it’s not forthcoming, they begin to look elsewhere. I’ve been in this situation myself and it can get pretty complicated