How do you quit or cut back?

[Don Hollinger]

Cannabis gummies have helped me curb my drive to monger. I know that with a lot of you it's the exact opposite, but for me it dulls the drive and renders me momentarily impotent.

I started this routine last year, and it put me in a very different mindset about the lifestyle. The whole show, from texts to gate code to a shower at :50, silly and absurd. Saranghae my ass.

A few days before a date, I clear that THC from my system and come to my alleged senses. Sober and clear-headed, the whole show, from texts to gate code to a shower at :50 -- deep, meaningful and life affirming.

 

[solomon_456]

Physical exercise might be a good idea

 

[User826]

You should have quit when you started dating and then got married.

Being out of work is going to make the decision easier for you. Your priorities are going to shift and the income you could afford to waste isn't there anymore.

You're addicted to sex and need to see a therapist.

 

[Johnnylovesmassages]

Join a baseball rotisserie league. That takes a lot of time. Or invest in stocks. Build/fix something. Join a gym. Anything that takes a lot of time.
Or look for stories on how men are caught cheating by their wife and leads to divorce and financial ruin. That should set you straight.
Watch these YouTube videos about men visiting Thailand and falling for bar girls and getting screwed by them.
https://www.youtube.com/@TalesBeyondHorizons/videos

also going to the gym will give you the eye candy you need to take care of business later. And if porn is not good enough and you want more real life things to look at there are plenty of sites out there with amazing eye candy to fapping. Zishy is one (faces are ok, but some of the bodies are amazing) and the candid zone (need to sign up but it's free) has amazing pictures of amateur girls (non nude) in everyday settings like the beach, target, etc.

 

[Bricktop]

With no job, he may have difficulty securing the financing.

Buy used

 

[Dc46]

Get a dog.

 

[SincerelyWF]

I haven’t quit, but I’ve cut down dramatically from 3-5x a week to just once a month or so. What I did was

1) stop carrying cash at all. I used to always carry cash with me but stopping this meant I had to go to the bank and added an extra step in the chain. And if I do see someone only bring enough cash for that (to prevent me from finishing with one girl and then immediately seeing a second)

2) jerk off 2-3x a day, doing this means they if I wanna see someone it won’t be a good session, so I’m less likely.

Now when I see a provider it means that it’s planned out in advance and it’s someone that I really want to see. It isn’t just seeing someone because the urge hit me.

 

[Michael_Choo]

Get married.

 

[Jeff2828]

Step one ask the mods to delete your profile and forget this site or others like it exist

Step two you lost your job you have bills to pay and limited savings so just stop and think about how you spend every dollar you have if the realization that you can not afford to keep going to spas doesn’t make you quit it might be time to get some addiction help

Step three you do have a SO, sex is readily available if the reason you keep going to spas is as simple as it being to vanilla make an attempt at getting what you want from your girl communicate with her and attempt to fix whatever you think is wrong.

 

[acheron72]

An alternative to quitting is to build mongering into a rewards system that helps you achieve your goals.

When I started my own business many years ago, I set a self-imposed rule where if I closed a certain amount in a month, I'd get a number of AMP visits the following month based on the amount closed. If I was below threshold, I'd get no AMP visits the following month. Basically, in my head, if I succeeded in meeting my goals, I was rewarded; and if I failed, I'd be punished. Doing this really helped reinforce my drive to close deals, and consequently grow my business.

Of course, for this to work, you need to be disciplined with both the reward side and punishment side. If you earn the reward, make sure you actually get it. If you don't, be disciplined enough to say that it is your punishment for failing to meet goals, and focus harder on meeting them next time.

Not sure what your plans are during this time, but perhaps you can set goals based on budgeting. Alternatively, if you're doing side work while looking for a new job, you could set goals based on that.

 

[Backinthegame]

Be happy with a real gf! ... BBFS CIP with a real gf sounds so much better than fake gfe cfs with a random chick for an hour and being the 5th guy of her day.

I've been single for a long time so I have to see them but would never do it if I have a gf or wife.

 

[MoreChi]

All of the above is very good advice here. Everyone is different and it’s not a one size cure’s all.

The “Root cause” of our hobby/obsession is the hormone testosterone.

What it does? Testosterone makes us want to kill, conquer, fuck and control. Just like an un-neutered tomcat. Without testosterone in your system it’s highly unlikely you would be patronizing these fine establishments.

How I know this: I have been on nonstop testosterone replacement for 30 years. In the beginning of those 30 years it was also stacked on top of anabolic steroids. Last summer I had a high blood PSA reading thinking I had prostate cancer and had to get a prostate biopsy. I had to be completely off testosterone replacement for three months. My levels went down, to low double digits from a normal 1300’s.

I felt like crap. I was overly sensitive very depressed, and my levels were lower than the average woman. I lost muscle got weak put on extra fat. Basically, I had no more superpowers.

What was different though mentally is that I had clarity of thought that I’ve never had in my entire life. And ZERO desire for sex! It was like I had a glimpse into the afterlife, where if I died tomorrow I knew I would not miss sex in the least. in fact, just a thought of having sex was rather disgusting. As if you only needed to live on air and sunlight, the thought of eating food would probably make you sick. And the new mindset brought me closer to my wife who was very understanding during this process.

I understand why people in some spiritual sects actually submit to physical or chemical castration. as I reflected on my life, I can honestly say the bulk of my really bad decisions were made being driven by high levels of testosterone. Think about all the celebrities and politicians that got jammed up with sex how simple life is when we don’t make those bad choices. I had no desire to go mongering. It wasn’t even a thought. In fact, I reflected on how much money and time I’ve wasted and the reckless chances that I took bringing home something to my wife.

Thankfully, the biopsy results were negative. After 30 years of testosterone replacement, your body no longer produces it. My urologist advised me not to go back on. But it made no sense to me to be on the equivalent of a testosterone blocker form of chemotherapy for cancer that I don’t have so I opted to stay on a very, very low dose. Just enough to give me a semblance of normal. Yes, I still have some desire to monger and I go occasionally, but I don’t have that burning drive like I did before, and my thought process has remained much clearer. If I had to stop, I could do it.

Food for thought…

 

[Handsome Matt]

An alternative to quitting is to build mongering into a rewards system that helps you achieve your goals.

When I started my own business many years ago, I set a self-imposed rule where if I closed a certain amount in a month, I'd get a number of AMP visits the following month based on the amount closed. If I was below threshold, I'd get no AMP visits the following month. Basically, in my head, if I succeeded in meeting my goals, I was rewarded; and if I failed, I'd be punished. Doing this really helped reinforce my drive to close deals, and consequently grow my business.

Of course, for this to work, you need to be disciplined with both the reward side and punishment side. If you earn the reward, make sure you actually get it. If you don't, be disciplined enough to say that it is your punishment for failing to meet goals, and focus harder on meeting them next time.

Not sure what your plans are during this time, but perhaps you can set goals based on budgeting. Alternatively, if you're doing side work while looking for a new job, you could set goals based on that.

That is an excellent plan.. I used it to curb a sports gambling addiction.

 

[Handsome Matt]

Be happy with a real gf! ... BBFS CIP with a real gf sounds so much better than fake gfe cfs with a random chick for an hour and being the 5th guy of her day.

I've been single for a long time so I have to see them but would never do it if I . about her

Be happy with a real gf! ... BBFS CIP with a real gf sounds so much better than fake gfe cfs with a random chick for an hour and being the 5th guy of her day.

I've been single for a long time so I have to see them but would never do it if I have a gf or wife.

OP, if you can't stand your wife or never get sex at home, I could understand. But it sounds like this is the perfect time for you to stop mongering, and get closer to her based on how you say you are best friends and want to stay with her long term.

 

[Sfguy94154]

Physical exercise might be a good idea

This makes me even hornier

 

[massiveloads]

OP, if you can't stand your wife or never get sex at home, I could understand. But it sounds like this is the perfect time for you to stop mongering, and get closer to her based on how you say you are best friends and want to stay with her long term.

She is fucking other guys

 

[rajhorn]

It’s easy. You focus on other goals like making money, and networking. When you are so busy with no free time you don’t think about moglngering at all. I’m only 30 and I see my sex drive falling. Not as horny as I was when I was 16. I can’t imagine what it’s like at 40. You can do this.

Also there’s karma if you give your wife herpes oral or genital. Think about her first.

 

[thepleaser62]

I have a couple of thoughts here that might help. Nothing really profound or original but I'll summarize.

First, admit you have an addiction and then you need to assess how harmful it is to your well being. You then have 2 choices, quit or manage it. Neither is easy, as the poster who said "I've quit several times" demonstrates.

For me personally, the only thing that made me quit for any length of time was being broke. Not really a good solution. But during that time I did find ways to quiet the itch. You need endorphins so find a less expensive alternative. Exercise is great for this. Run, lift, whatever. I monger less when I exercise more.

That works for managing the addiction as well. I also try to deal with it day by day. My go to strategies are:

1. Go rub one out. That'll usually buy me some time. It works pretty well for a while, especially in combination with my next suggestion...

2. Tell yourself "I don't really need to go today, it's a drive and it's expensive. Maybe tomorrow."

Repeat strategies 1 and 2 as long as you can hold out.

3. Exercise or find other things to keep busy. Idle hands and all. Plus if you're busy with something and the day flies by, maybe the amps will be closed when you're done.

4. If you have ADHD or depression as I do, you might benefit from therapy or meds. The right meds will help with impulse control. I cut up down after I got medicated. I know that can be tough if you're not working but it's good advice if you can do it.

5. I'm adapting something my therapist told me about a stop-think technique. When you get the urge, take a beat and ask yourself "can I really afford this rn?" If you're honest you'll say no, and then try strategies 1-3. Keeping a close eye on your bank account helps you think clearly too.

6. Lastly, do things that make you feel good about yourself. An achievement or good deed might keep you from looking for good feelings inside asian pussy for awhile.

Between all of these techniques I got down from 1-2x a week, which was really taxing, to about 1x a month, which I can afford. And I've gone longer when money was tight. I've been in serious financial trouble in the past and I don't ever want to go back there, so that gives me some clarity.

Anyway, good luck bro. Try your best, take it a day at a time, and don't beat yourself up. And watch your money. You can always make more jizz but money you can't get back, and financial holes are hard to dig out of.