How do you quit or cut back?

[Stronghand009]

Please delete if not allowed. But I have a feeling other mongers may feel similarly.

I was recently laid off from my job and my financial situation has changed dramatically. I have enough savings that I can tighten my belt and pay my bills comfortably for a few months. But that emergency fund is going to run out rather quickly if I keep going to spas or seeing providers every other week.

I've been mongering since my early 20s, when I was single, horny and full of energy and cum. Now I'm closer to 40, married, and family planning. I know we don't talk about SOs (except how to avoid them catching you), but I really do love my wife and can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her. She is absolutely my best friend. The sex is just a little vanilla sometimes, especially considering what I've experienced with some providers. Safety is obviously a concern as well. I mostly play safe, but there's always a risk. I don't want to hurt my wife, but I also can't seem to stop myself.

Whenever I get the urge and have an opportunity when the wife is away, it's like I have an insatiable compulsion. I've tried masturbating. Many times, I'm even pulling from the internal spank bank, thinking about past sessions with the provider I was thinking of seeing. But all that does is delay the inevitable, and I spend the rest of the week thinking about that provider and wanting to see them even more. I enjoy watching massage porn when thinking about visiting a spa, but that just makes me think "I WANT THAT." It also doesn't help that there are SO many options in NY, whether it's NYC or LI. It's just so accessible.

Eventually I just give in. Even worse, if I have a bad session, I'm back with a different provider a day or two later to get the bad taste (sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally) out of my mouth. I'll continue doing this until I have a good session. I spent over $1000 one week going back to the same spa every day until I was fully satisfied.

TL;DR I want to quit mongering, but I'm addicted to paid pussy. So I guess my question is, has anyone ever quit? And if so, how did you do it?

 

[이 회장님]

I’ve met members from this site who have quit mongering which I respect. They just quit all at once and not gradually and left this site for good and never looked back.

With your situation, you will need to quit at once too. And logging into this site doesn’t help either.

Good luck.

 

[infamousj]

handle this the same way you would handle an addiction. cause that’s simply what it is.

figure out if your addicted to sex, the experience, ejaculating? or all the above.

some practical steps:

- stop visiting this site
- stop watching porn
- folllow semen retention
- stay busy
- fck ur wife more

 

[solomon_456]

There’s only one way to quit and that is to JUST QUIT!

Don’t check ads don’t read the boards just quit it entirely, buy yourself some meaningful books to keep your brain stimulated when you’re bored

 

[infamousj]

handle this the same way you would handle an addiction. cause that’s simply what it is.

figure out if your addicted to sex, the experience, ejaculating? or all the above.

some practical steps:

- stop visiting this site
- stop watching porn
- folllow semen retention
- stay busy
- fck ur wife more

furthermore, this is something where you will have relapses. and thats ok, so long as you’re improving after each one and reaching the goal you want to achieve.

 

[AutomaticSlim]

Yeah staying off this and other similar sites is a good start.
Maybe try redirecting to something else?
Like maybe going for a jog or working out every time the urge hits you?

I've never quit but I have taken long breaks.
But I have to say, if I had an SO like you have, I really think I would quit immediately and never look back.
So in addition to the redirecting, maybe keep her picture with you and look at it whenever you feel like going to an AMP/Agency.

 

[markkennedy]

In any addiction therapy, they say "people places and things", so you have to think hard about causal chain, what's your trigger, then avoid those people places things. Easier said than done of course.

For me, it's easy, although a Rube Goldberg solution. I have strict personal rule about driving while stoned. I don't do it, under any circumstance. So, if I'm trying to cut back or my dick is sore from two weeks solid of mongering, I just make it a point to get fired up the moment I get home, so there's no way to monger. Now, for me there are amp ladies in our area who make special menu house calls, so thus is leakage in the plan, but for the most part it works. In process operations planning we can call this an engineering control. Like your guys can't resist using this door as an exit for break time, then you say ok fuckit you won't behave, we weld the door shut.

Best of luck in finding work. They say that a rule of thumb is for every 10k you expect to make, you can expect to hunt for a month. So, a 120k job, you might hunt a year!

 

[mikemendez]

It’s easy to quit, I’ve done it several times, lol. I reckon your current mindset will change once you’re employed again. The difficulty is that you currently have more time on your hands, maybe a bit bored even, so the wanting to spend more time with providers is constantly on your mind.

 

[Johnnylovesmassages]

no cash in pocket. Seriously. As soon as I have 150 or so in my pocket my little guy is saying "hey, let's spend that at an amp". Not having cash keeps me away.

 

[Johnnylovesmassages]

handle this the same way you would handle an addiction. cause that’s simply what it is.

figure out if your addicted to sex, the experience, ejaculating? or all the above.

some practical steps:

- stop visiting this site
- stop watching porn
- folllow semen retention
- stay busy
- fck ur wife more

actually for me, watching porn first thing in the morning and taking care of business is the best way to not go to an amp that day. That and making sure I don't have an extra $150 in my pocket.

 

[Bricktop]

Please delete if not allowed. But I have a feeling other mongers may feel similarly.

I was recently laid off from my job and my financial situation has changed dramatically. I have enough savings that I can tighten my belt and pay my bills comfortably for a few months. But that emergency fund is going to run out rather quickly if I keep going to spas or seeing providers every other week.

I've been mongering since my early 20s, when I was single, horny and full of energy and cum. Now I'm closer to 40, married, and family planning. I know we don't talk about SOs (except how to avoid them catching you), but I really do love my wife and can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her. She is absolutely my best friend. The sex is just a little vanilla sometimes, especially considering what I've experienced with some providers. Safety is obviously a concern as well. I mostly play safe, but there's always a risk. I don't want to hurt my wife, but I also can't seem to stop myself.

Whenever I get the urge and have an opportunity when the wife is away, it's like I have an insatiable compulsion. I've tried masturbating. Many times, I'm even pulling from the internal spank bank, thinking about past sessions with the provider I was thinking of seeing. But all that does is delay the inevitable, and I spend the rest of the week thinking about that provider and wanting to see them even more. I enjoy watching massage porn when thinking about visiting a spa, but that just makes me think "I WANT THAT." It also doesn't help that there are SO many options in NY, whether it's NYC or LI. It's just so accessible.

Eventually I just give in. Even worse, if I have a bad session, I'm back with a different provider a day or two later to get the bad taste (sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally) out of my mouth. I'll continue doing this until I have a good session. I spent over $1000 one week going back to the same spa every day until I was fully satisfied.

TL;DR I want to quit mongering, but I'm addicted to paid pussy. So I guess my question is, has anyone ever quit? And if so, how did you do it?

Buy a boat.

 

[infamousj]

actually for me, watching porn first thing in the morning and taking care of business is the best way to not go to an amp that day. That and making sure I don't have an extra $150 in my pocket.

that works too. except now you’ve got yourself a porn addiction.

 

[massiveloads]

logging into this site doesn’t help either.

This is the most difficult because its easier to check reviews than grabbing cash and going to a shop. If you are serious about quitting you don't really have a reason to check reviews and comments. You can quit by will or by circumstance, sounds like a little bit of both. The only time I really think about quitting is when I get an ugly provider or one that isnt good at sucking or fucking, then the cash spent hurts

 

[asiansmakemehappy]

Please delete if not allowed. But I have a feeling other mongers may feel similarly.

I was recently laid off from my job and my financial situation has changed dramatically. I have enough savings that I can tighten my belt and pay my bills comfortably for a few months. But that emergency fund is going to run out rather quickly if I keep going to spas or seeing providers every other week.

I've been mongering since my early 20s, when I was single, horny and full of energy and cum. Now I'm closer to 40, married, and family planning. I know we don't talk about SOs (except how to avoid them catching you), but I really do love my wife and can't wait to spend the rest of my life with her. She is absolutely my best friend. The sex is just a little vanilla sometimes, especially considering what I've experienced with some providers. Safety is obviously a concern as well. I mostly play safe, but there's always a risk. I don't want to hurt my wife, but I also can't seem to stop myself.

Whenever I get the urge and have an opportunity when the wife is away, it's like I have an insatiable compulsion. I've tried masturbating. Many times, I'm even pulling from the internal spank bank, thinking about past sessions with the provider I was thinking of seeing. But all that does is delay the inevitable, and I spend the rest of the week thinking about that provider and wanting to see them even more. I enjoy watching massage porn when thinking about visiting a spa, but that just makes me think "I WANT THAT." It also doesn't help that there are SO many options in NY, whether it's NYC or LI. It's just so accessible.

Eventually I just give in. Even worse, if I have a bad session, I'm back with a different provider a day or two later to get the bad taste (sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally) out of my mouth. I'll continue doing this until I have a good session. I spent over $1000 one week going back to the same spa every day until I was fully satisfied.

TL;DR I want to quit mongering, but I'm addicted to paid pussy. So I guess my question is, has anyone ever quit? And if so, how did you do it?

Omg i have same problem not being satified ,i try new providers to get my atf out of my head and doesnt work feel in love with one still havent seen her for awhile ,you just have to be strong pull your head out of the vicious cycle and the thought process (fast ) what i mean by that set a goal time frame go without watching porn for awhile ,like 5 days then reward yourself with a massage keep extending the time frame ,hipe that helps it helps me not go so often !!

 

[mitchxy1]

Join a baseball rotisserie league. That takes a lot of time. Or invest in stocks. Build/fix something. Join a gym. Anything that takes a lot of time.
Or look for stories on how men are caught cheating by their wife and leads to divorce and financial ruin. That should set you straight.
Watch these YouTube videos about men visiting Thailand and falling for bar girls and getting screwed by them.
https://www.youtube.com/@TalesBeyondHorizons/videos

 

[Anonajohn]

You just quit. You point your #$& toward other things.

 

[needampass]

Go on an AMP binge, 3 a day until you run out of money.

 

[Lookhii]

Gotta learn to manage your dark side bro. If I was laid off, P4P would be the least of my worries

 

[Acheron45]

It's very good that you have those positive feelings about your wife. I started feeling the opposite towards mine which is part of the reason I filed for divorce.

If you feel your sex life is vanilla - communicate with her and tell her what you need and like. If she asks about where you learned that you can say you saw it on porn.

Think of all the negatives from continuing this hobby:

Do you want to explain why you got the clap?

What did you spend your savings since you're not working.

Do you want to find another woman that you will feel the same way about

Losing a job is a traumatic event and mongering maybe a crutch to numb the pain.

See a shrink. Get a hobby that's healthy like running or yoga.

You need to find the will power to just stop.

Hope you can stop, find a job that makes you happy and have a long and happy marriage.

 

[oldhorndog53]

Buy a boat.

With no job, he may have difficulty securing the financing.