I read a blog post about someone’s time as a nurse for dying people. She talked to them about their biggest regrets in life. I am still in the first half of my life, but my biggest regret so far has been my alcohol use. It’s been a net negative for me. What are some of your biggest regrets so far?
These were their biggest regrets:
- "I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."
- "I wish I hadn't worked so hard."
- "I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings."
- "I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends."
- "I wish that I had let myself be happier."
I would have not gotten snipped as early as I did, and had more kids. I have since adopted relatives whose parents were not able to use self-control in their lives. Five successful adult children is a great accomplishment for any man, but I REALLY REALLY enjoyed being a dad, and wish that time in my life was no over so soon.
Also, maybe a bigger regret, was openly disregarding my wife's and children's wishes, and going back to the war after being nearly killed, TWICE. I did no think hard and long enough about them, and even now so many years later I think about how they must have felt the first two times they got the call that their husband and father had been shot and they needed to fly to the Germany right now. I will never be able to undo that thing that I did to them, in selfish vainglorious way. They don't openly ever say anything about it, but I can't imagine that they just forgot it.
Other than that, nothing else. Of the ones you mentioned,
#1 check. I was "supposed to" be some kind of politician or maybe cabinet secretary or department chair or some shit, according to my mentors and family. I don't do what others claim I'm supposed to do; if they want to live that life as described they can do it. They said, Vlad, you're wasting your life going to the Army, Vlad why are you going to engineering school, Vlad what will you do with an MBA? Joke's on them, most of them are in coffins or watching Matlock 24/7
#2 I don't regret one ounce of my hard work. I was born in a foreign prisoner of war camp in the worst place in the Russia, and now I'm as successful as I want to be. Grandfather used to say, "work will set you free", and he was so right I wished I had even worked harder to get to this very spot even one day earlier.
#3 Have to be careful in expressing feelings. Most people who no one wants to be around, or people who enjoy visiting the jail every few months, are people who do no have the genetic makeup to control their impulses, or their emotions. There is a time and place for feelings, and most settings and most times are no these. Not that no one cares, but no one cares.
#4 Most of my old friends are drug addicts or prisoners, or NPCs, even worse are short dicked politicians, I have no regret of not keeping in contact, and purposefully do this action. My best friends in my whole life, three were killed in the war and one killed himself at the war, of the last two, one delivers sandwiches to my plant once a week, and the other one I'm visiting tomorrow in New Yock City where his dad is on trial, again. Live in the moment, you find often that people you were compatible with five ten twenty thirty years ago are different now as you are, and more likely you would no like them today.
#5 This one wow yes anyone should almost make a physical appointment in their planner to have fun and be happy. Sometimes, to the point of #1, people don't even know who they are, maybe to the point of #3 and #4. They live someone else's life, their parents or mentors or teacher or neighbor or boss or friends, and wake up 40 and have no idea who the hell they really are. I'm the same guy I was in the 80s, 90s, and so on, I make a space for myself and I go to there when I need to center. In that place are all my favorite things, and all the things that I know others in my life will laugh about or make fun of me for or shake their heads, but is my life and I do what I want in my life. Mongering fills this role to an extent for me, I can get away from everyone who will make any judgement, and be my true natural self. Don't have to act, don't have to say special stuff, just be myself. Probably why I enjoy chatting the dolls as much as I enjoy licking their pussies