several years ago i had a couple good experiences with the Parsippany ones, then all horrible like you describe. I stopped trying them at all about 5 years ago except for a couple transgressions that were as terrifying as yours. I reviewed a couple of htem
If EVERY girl in these places is so bad, and it seems they are, you'd figure either they are out of business by now or there is an unlimited number of guys trying them for the first time and havent figured it out yet what crap it all is.
I stick to AMPS now as once I find a good girl, I can keep going back to just her.