This thread has really gotten a lot of attention lately. I've been away from this site as I've stopped using AMPs and I am 100% on SA now. I do hear the frustration many of you have expressed. I thought I would update my recent experience and share some best practices that have allowed me to get some amazing girls over the last 4 months. I have a preference for sweet, pretty, young, white/asian next door type girls. Think big doe eyes, nice hair, petite, dresses well but not flashy. Instead of tiktok girls, think Jessica Biel when she was on 7th Heaven. These girls do go to Ivy League schools, or are in med school and grad school or are budding business professionals They are working on improving their lives and don't have time to date and don't want to date guys their age. Often don't have a strong father figure in their lives and need financial or career advice. They are looking to spend time with Tom Hanks and not Jeffrey Weinstein. They don't view themselves as escorts, but actually dating. They are attracted to older men that are funny, well spoken, can tell them stories and make them laugh. While they enjoy the $200/per meals, with the right company, they are fine with the $50 per meals. As much as they put on their profiles they like the Opera or shopping, most are content with going to an afternoon movie or a walk around Washington Square Park. They want to feel this is all very normal. But once they get in the bedroom, and they feel comfortable with you, sometimes the sex gets crazy intense, because they aren't getting it very often themselves.
I've learned over time in order to find and get the girls that I want, the girls that don't just go for anyone that offers them money, but someone that makes them feel normal, you've got to play along. So here are the things I've refined over the past year, that has allowed me to have girls in nearly every city I travel to, where when I am not traveling there, life goes on, and I keep a girl or two in NYC that I switch out over time as I need to keep me interested. A few of them are on birth control for me, as I've built trusting relationships with them. It takes a lot of work, but the payoff as been amazing. I've kept everything $500PPM (even with inflation) and with dinner and dayuse, it comes out to about $750 per meeting. I do this 2 or 3 times a month, compared to when I was going to the AMP once or twice a week, so I am spending roughly the same. Oddly enough, for me, the quality has been enough to satisfy my mongering addiction. I was surprised by it. Keep in mind, there are plenty of girls on SA that just want to fuck for money, and nothing else. You certainly don't need to try as hard with them and therefore, my advice does not apply. That is not what I am going after.
1. You have to play the game. Make sure you have a good profile with good pictures of yourself. Fortunately for me I am a pretty decent looking fella, so I suppose this works to my advantage. But in speaking with some of these girls, looks matter only to a certain extent.
2. Do not request their picture before you've convinced them you are worth them showing it. In fact, always share your picture first. This builds trust. Remember, you need to set the honey trap and you can't do that by being rude or sketchy.
3. Play the long game. Sometimes, it takes a while to get a really attractive girls to come around, especially the newer members. They are getting hounded with messages by men capable of offerings a lot more than any of us. I ran into a girl recently in NYC that was getting $10K a month allowance for a couple of meetings a week. Most of us can't compete with that directly. But those $10K a month folks are mostly hedge fund alphas and eventually you might catch a girl in a moment of weakness to settle for something lesser but more comfortable. If you find yourself really attracted to someone, favorite their profile or keep a mental note, and check in with them in another month if they are still around. Ask them how they are doing. You'd be surprised at the result. My current SB in NYC is a hot Korean girl in law school that would make all of you jealous. It took me two months to finally get her out to lunch over the summer. I only see her a couple of times a month and she takes birth control for me. We fuck for hours at a time, she is insatiable. I honestly have to pinch myself sometimes. The last meeting I watched her shower through a glass shower and I couldn't believe what I got myself into.
4. You have to be able to offer something besides money. I know many of you might think this is a wasted effort, but I believe when a girl says she doesn't want things transactional, it just means she doesn't want it to be all about the money (but they definitely still want it). Ask her about her dreams and aspirations. What are things you are good at that could inspire her or teach her skills she doesn't have now. Maybe you are good at telling jokes or you are in expert in taxes. All of you are resourceful enough to have found this website and have enough disposable income to have this hobby. Clearly you have intelligence and something to offer. Think about what that is and use it to your advantage.
5. Never say thank you after you sleep with them. I know when I mongered at AMPs I did not because they were doing them a service. Girls you are dating don't want to be thanked for sex, they want to be told they are beautiful and the sex was amazing, or they gave amazing blow jobs. We've all been conditioned to do things a certain way because of this lifestyle. It you want to make a switch to SA, you have to adapt in order to be successful there. Someone alluded to this earlier, you can't use mongering language with them. They don't want to know you might be screwing around with other girls. In that vein, request that they get tested for STDs regularly and ask them to see the results. Tell them you do the same and you care about her safety. This makes them trust you more and also serves the double affect of keeping you safe.
I have more to say, but for now, I figure I would impart some of my latest thoughts with you all. Good luck to everyone. SA continues to be something that tests my patience, but I'm starting to see tremendous payoffs.