Agree, not a lot of girls know how to take their time, tease, and edge you. It helps to explain to girls what you want and give feedback/stop them during the act when they speed up too much. Use translator, show them porn (Tori Black is a great example), even demonstrate on their finger which gets laughs but is effective.
Since your reviews are only for AMP, the community can make better recommendations if you can reference which K-girls you think are great/good/bad at what you're asking for.
In San Mateo, Kira SBT and Lovelyn FKG are usually aggressive, but both have reputations as oral queens and may be able to deliver what you want. In San Jose, Yuffie SPM and Izzy LSC definitely can as long as they understand what you want. Terra LSC is decent too. GL