I've heard good thing about hitchingpost in NJ if your looking for FS. Avoid the major Manhattan clubs, the girls specifically dance there because it's dances only, no extras. Guys are there to get fleeced.
In Queens I can only speak for one major club, sometime after SESTA/FOSTA and after a certain guard stopped working there, the place started getting very lax with way more new faces walking around. Sometimes there will be like 50 girls out on the floor alone, not including those hiding in the locker room. Meanwhile before the change this place maybe had 30 girls on a heavy night. I've had girls introduce themselves by grabing junior over the pants and one went so far as to stick her hand in my pants in the regular lap dance area. I've never gotten a chance to go beyond FIV and DFK in the private area. No up charge. I only had 3 or so offer to meet up for take out but it wasn't something I was prepared for the nights that I went. The impression that I got was that things had to be pretty slow during that shift for the girls to start offering up. Also got the suspicion that some of them are former MP or Agency girls that turned to dancing to make ends meet. For a few the vibe they put off was like a MP girl walking around more than a stripper. Doubly so if she leaned heavily on things like letting the guy feel her up, doing DFK, or just grinding rather than actually giving a proper lap dance.