What would this be considered?

[Lotsofpapertowels]

I have an opportunity to have a "friend with benefits." We are both married. Would this constitute an affair if there's no emotional component?

 

[DutchW]

I have an opportunity to have a "friend with benefits." We are both married. Would this constitute an affair if there's no emotional component?

Who cares. Great opportunity

 

[DrHappy88]

I have an opportunity to have a "friend with benefits." We are both married. Would this constitute an affair if there's no emotional component?

Whether you two believe it's an affair or not, the spouses probably will think it is. You are an adult so I won't say to do it or not. Just think it through and be prepared to deal with the consequences when you get caught.

 

[Lotsofpapertowels]

Right. No doubt the spouses would think that. But I'm trying to decide how to think of it myself, should it develop.

 

[BIGBOB62]

Its an affair. It’s cheating on your spouse. You can play whatever head games you want inside your brain to justify it, but it’s an affair to 7 billion other people.

 

[jim_hatez]

Agree with Bob. Many many years ago I had a co-worker ask me pretty much the same thing. We never went all the way but HJ, BBJ, and DATY. I was loving it, zero cost right, just a fun time between 2 adults. But then, the issue happened.

Turned out her marriage was on the rocks. Told me I should leave my wife and go off with her. Except I didn't like her THAT much. Enough to fuck around with, but wasn't prepared to blow up my life for her despite she was a lil on the freaky side which of course I really liked.

Without boring you with 1000 paragraph long story short is I told her I can't and she made threats about going to talk to her directly. This is when I realized if u want to keep your SO/Wife, you are way better off hobbying than finding side action, even if its free. Unless u got a way of doing that and maintaining anonymity I think it is very risky. Almost bit me in the ass, so think long and hard before you engage.

Good luck.

 

[Paulie123]

I did it many times. It's an affair and when I was caught my marriage ended. I agree with big Bob and Jim.

 

[mitchellmichael]

I have an opportunity to have a "friend with benefits." We are both married. Would this constitute an affair if there's no emotional component?

Yes. And then there is the opposite, the emotional affair. That is when you have a close relationship with another person not your SO in which you share things together you would not with your SO. Both are affairs. Easier to just go to an AMP.

 

[dco2010]

Its great because it cost you little money !!!

 

[Tikelegacy]

I have an opportunity to have a "friend with benefits." We are both married. Would this constitute an affair if there's no emotional component?

I didn’t realize emotions were prerequisites to being in an affair. That’s like my high school catholic girlfriend who claimed she was still a virgin because we only fucked with a condom on.

 

[TheEnjoyer]

Nothing is free-evaluate the risks-be careful.

 

[Theman012]

How would that not be an affair

 

[mccovey]

Its hard to believe that question has to be asked . Sounds like you are trying to rationalize already and your mind is made up . Be careful .

 

[BIGBOB62]

I didn’t realize emotions were prerequisites to being in an affair. That’s like my high school catholic girlfriend who claimed she was still a virgin because we only fucked with a condom on.

Or mine who thought that as long as she just did oral and anal…

 

[metal rat]

Right. No doubt the spouses would think that. But I'm trying to decide how to think of it myself, should it develop.

It’s another reason why Spa girls are the safer option, if you don’t ever go back to see a regular there’s no consequences. But try to stop seeing the friend with benefits, she might not accept you walking away and become your worst nightmare. Whether you chalk it up to an affair or not isn’t as important as your SO’s take on it, she’ll only see red and lash out.

 

[Assman]

Or the college fuck toy who only let me do Greek because she was saving herself for her husband.

 

[charliebrown]

Interesting you ask a bunch of mongers if fucking another woman is cheating.

An old saying that fits perfectly. You are not paying them for sex, you are paying them to leave.

If you go down the affair road, do yourself a favor and do all of your homework before heading down that path. It is full of potholes, debris, traps, ambushes, hazards, etc, etc, etc

https://www.bonobology.com/how-are-most-affairs-discovered/

 

[PJ73]

L..... How can you not know the answer to that question? Are you secretly W J Clinton? And I'll add, the most expensive pussy you're ever going to get, is the pussy you think you're getting for free.

 

[Lotsofpapertowels]

PJ, great wisdom. Makes 100% sense.

 

[Lemon Jake]

You're posting on a board about masage parlors, you're already a mile past cheating in the mind of any woman.