What would you tell yourself before getting into this hobby?

[toadnotfrog]

What would I tell myself 10 years back?
At 18?
Don't be afraid to get a job, earn money, and strike out on the girls around you.
Fucking 100 girls will not make you forget your ex, but it will give you perspective on the sexual encounters you deserve to have.
Never be afraid to walk out if the place/ women aren't up to standards.
Start Massage/Acupuncture school earlier- the knowledge of anatomy and kino from these fields has helped tremendously.
You do love asian women, don't be ashamed, you know exactly what you like- and they like you too.
Learn semen retention asap, and learn to have sex without nutting ASAP.
Nothing feels worse than spending 120 and nutting. Rather, 120 and not nutting, adds to the highscore.
You'll probably never have a lover, but women will always flirt and enjoy your company, so enjoy the little bits of paradise you experience here and there.
Seeing all types of Venus/Women has shown me that even some AMP women have hearts and are really just trying to get by.
These women somehow all have the same stinky breath-bring mints.
Whenever they give you extra time without extra tip take down their number and establish rapport.

 

[hgae931]

What the hell is all this advice about "not doing this when you are young". It sounds kind of bitter.

I started this hobby when I was 18. I'm in my late 30s now.

The entire time I hobby, I also date normally and got married once (married at 21, divorced at 24, we were too young).

Nobody said you can't date while hobbying. I use the hobby to fill in for in between girlfriends and dates. Blaming the hobby for not dating on your own is just an excuse.

The only advice I would give myself before getting into this hobby is to not pay ridiculous prices. I started the hobby seeing "upscale companions" for $1k-$2k. Then I realized I could get A+ 10/10's for 2-3 bills. Could have saved myself a lot of money.

 

[captain.williams.2]

I’d say it’s fucking awesome, don’t think twice about it. Just avoid the tiresome on-line discussions about “quitting the hobby” and rueing the “lost finances”. They’re time wasting, lugubrious whining by those with pseudo religious guilt, and whatnot. I’d tell my younger self to reply to said discussions and say if you truly feel that way, go to church, a financial advisor, or a psychiatrist, don’t troll about on a website devoted to pursuing what you seem to want to avoid.

 

[HoldenMcGroin]

I’d say it’s fucking awesome, don’t think twice about it. Just avoid the tiresome on-line discussions about “quitting the hobby” and rueing the “lost finances”. They’re time wasting, lugubrious whining by those with pseudo religious guilt, and whatnot. I’d tell my younger self to reply to said discussions and say if you truly feel that way, go to church, a financial advisor, or a psychiatrist, don’t troll about on a website devoted to pursuing what you seem to want to avoid.

Amen, brother!

 

[itwasntme]

May sound insane but hobbying has improved my marriage. I discovered that it's unrealistic to expect my life partner to satisfy all my weird sexual needs. It's too much to ask. Once I stopped relying on her for that I was able to let go of ton of resentment and enjoy what she has to offer. There's no conceivable reason why over a, now 28 year relationship her needs should match mine.

To you and those in similar situations: would you still get married knowing what you know now? Does your wife know and accept the hobby? This sounds like an ideal setup to me: got the whole "my wife is my best friend and companion in life" thing going, but also the thrill of a varied sex life.

For me the hobby was great. I've never been particularly materialistic, but hobbying gave me some more motivation to care about money and work hard in my career. It also took a lot of the pressure out of dating: I could go out and just enjoy a nice evening with a woman, knowing that I'm getting laid either way. My game was never particularly smooth, so if I pushed too much it'd come off as sweaty desperation rather than suave seduction. Much easier to relax and let whatever happens happens. Eventually I met someone special and have been in a monogamous relationship since. I've been thinking a lot about whether I want to get married and start a family, but there's a strong temptation to instead spend decades with no stress, no responsibility, and a revolving door of new young providers.

For those of you who've walked that path, do you regret it? Seems like it could get a little nihilistic. On the other hand I've now tasted the forbidden fruit and know what it's like to see new women every week. Now sure how I'd handle a decades long monogamous commitment.

 

[Don Hollinger]

To you and those in similar situations: would you still get married knowing what you know now? Does your wife know and accept the hobby? This sounds like an ideal setup to me: got the whole "my wife is my best friend and companion in life" thing going, but also the thrill of a varied sex life.

For me the hobby was great. I've never been particularly materialistic, but hobbying gave me some more motivation to care about money and work hard in my career. It also took a lot of the pressure out of dating: I could go out and just enjoy a nice evening with a woman, knowing that I'm getting laid either way. My game was never particularly smooth, so if I pushed too much it'd come off as sweaty desperation rather than suave seduction. Much easier to relax and let whatever happens happens. Eventually I met someone special and have been in a monogamous relationship since. I've been thinking a lot about whether I want to get married and start a family, but there's a strong temptation to instead spend decades with no stress, no responsibility, and a revolving door of new young providers.

For those of you who've walked that path, do you regret it? Seems like it could get a little nihilistic. On the other hand I've now tasted the forbidden fruit and know what it's like to see new women every week. Now sure how I'd handle a decades long monogamous commitment.

Like a lot of you guys I'm hardwired differently. Alcohol and religion didn't really work for me to channel my personality defects.

I have remained in my sexless marriage. Before I got into this I was having affairs with women, didn't want to leave my wife. I'm able to care for her without distractions as she ages.

I'm motivated to earn more and take better care of myself. I'm in far better shape than I was ten years ago when I was a bloated drunk. Sure, the ladies don't care about appearance but they appreciate a man who takes care of himself.

I found that Asian companions were friendlier and did their theater much better for the modest fee that I paid. Far prettier with nicer figures. And if someone told me back then that I would have three CFs--Chinese, Korean and Japanese--I would not have believed them. Yeah, I'm in denial about this Asian fever thing...

Like the rest of you, family and financial obligations come first before we treat ourselves to encounters. Although I'm further into this than I thought I have no regrets.