@TGBeldin
You talk to providers with whom you do not book sessions??? Not sure I understand that remark. How would you even have contact with them if you are not seeing them professionally?
Is It like a pen pal arrangement? Or are these women you used to see, but not any longer? Not being sarcastic here, just seems a bit odd. To me, anyway.
Fair question, and the answer is a bit of "all the above".
I've been at this a long time, and I've seen a lot of women. Become friends with a number of them, and been invited part way into their "real life" circles some times--but as has been said here by others, I am not stupid enough to drop the lady friend for one of her friends.
There are rules: I meet other provider friends of hers, but it is RW. I get to talk with them as people, not providers. After a while I get accepted as a "not an outsider". It helps that I will often do "friend things" for them, like their taxes, investment advice, some basic home/apartment repair, give them a ride, let them stay in my spare room when they vacation where I live (it is something of a tourist location), etc.
The other group of women are the pen-pal types from TER, ECCIE, or women I used to see who retired/moved on. Some moved overseas to places I do not travel.
The final group are younger women--friends, relatives, acquaintances of women in the business I already know. The ones I know ask me to meet the new woman and give her a couple hour pitch i have put together about "a guy's perspective on escorts", with a healthy dose of a guy's expectations, bookkeeping, marketing, safety, setting prices, etc. The women do educate the new ones, but also ask that i touch on those topics from a different POV. In these cases I do not have sex with the young woman, and my only charge is a large Starbuck's or equivalent--though often the older woman who sent the younger one will volunteer a free intimate "thank you" which I have been known to accept.