Love this topic. Look, if someone is honest with himself, or gets an honest woman he knows to rate him, he will usually find he is like 2 levels lower than he thinks. But, for most dudes these days, younger guys especially, their confidence level is like a 1 out of ten, and that brings the overall rating down all the levels. Some gents here have met me IRL, and can vouch that I'm not a 10 or maybe even a 7, but I'm in shape, look very young for my age, and I shoot confidence from every pore. You guys talking about shooting your shot, man I'm like a machine gun, I shoot my shot all the time. Grandfather used to say that if you cast one line, you may eat fish today, or no, but if you cast 100000 lines, you will never be hungry a day in your life.
But for the hungriest of us, there are two things about civvies:
1. They are not on demand. Ok, those of us alphas that are the most confident and outgoing dude in the place every place, we can get a chick within half hour of being in any place including grocery store. But in reality, I might be sitting at home playing a video game or writing paper and decide I want to cum in a stranger's mouth. For a small fee I can go to my choice of eight shops within 20 minutes of my home and get exactly this. And then go right back to my video game, which I may have left on pause.
2. They want extra shit. So last week end I was down Atlantic City, my father had some surgery and I was visiting him in hospital and staying at his home. I chatted up one of the nurses Friday and Saturday, and as I was leaving, she gave me her number. Ok, fine, she was cute and had like this mombod I enjoy, but I know she's a civvie. Sure I will call her, and sure I will take her out and try to DATYO her. Because that's what I do. But she, she will sooner or later try to make me watch some horseshit on Netflix with I don't know Meg Ryan or something, and she might suggest that I would totally enjoy going to the local apple farm to pick apples or visit a lamp store. Why the fuck would I want to do any of this? I have a wife who I don't do those things with unless is necessary for some reason I can't think of now.
I know some dudes here, like me, we enjoy the hunt over the kill, but sometimes you need the kill, and you need it right this second. And, you don't need the extra.
If you're going for civvies though, for sure get your confidence up gents. Girls, I find in almost any age, they look for dudes who will listen to them talk about themselves and the bitch at her work, and they like men who have job and home and car and give a fsck about how do they look even if they're ugly dudes.