Sex life at home

She’s actually very attractive for her age and stays in good shape. We simply live like brother and sister

really! ok, so maybe the problem is not her, PM me her phone number I'll give it a go to satisfy her

So now they are saying you look like a movie star LoL what they say next . The truth of the matter they don’t give a crap what you look like and dose not matter to them if you are young or old. They look it this way you are just a pay customer. It’s just a job . To them like other jobs .

I disagree. It is not that simple. They will treat you better if they think you are handsome. If they say you are handsome and then keep their distance, they are obviously lying. If you throw enough money at them, they may pretend to ignore your looks, but they are human beings too. No one likes to fuck someone who is unattractive. If they fuck you outside the spa for free, then they think you are attractive and/or rich.

A good personality makes a difference too. If you have a good personality, then you appear more attractive than you really are; the reverse is true for a bad personality. I have observed this effect with women. After a while, an otherwise beautiful women with a shitty personality starts to look downright ugly.

Since my SO was not interested or pushed me away for years, I have subconsciously distance myself from her.

Married 25 yrs, and my wife still seems to enjoy sex. I believe that mainly it's because I give a good effort during, and I am in very good shape for my age. She even slipped once recently and said I was the "trophy husband". But regardless of her enjoyment of it, she has no creativity and makes no effort to that end, even though I have talked about that many times. She knew about my proclivity towards creativity, role playing, scenarios etc. since before we were married, so she can't say she didn't expect that side of me. So for the last 10 years or so, I have refrained from even initiating. Whereas I used to treat her in a sexy way i.e. spy on her in the shower, grope her, talk dirty, I have pretty much stopped completely. For her part, all she does is grab and stroke me to get me stimulated. This has been the way for the last 10 years, and nothing ever changes.
As someone mentioned earlier, you can eat your favorite meal for only so long before you get sick of it and find a new favorite meal. They don't seem to understand that, despite all that is known about men, and me telling her that. So can we be blamed for mongering?

Sex life at home aka masturbation. Lol

I think all you guys that cheated on their wife they try yo convince them self that is ok . NO it’s not ok . Would you like if your wife was doing the same?? is you? I don’t think so . For better or for worse.. this is my opinion. Unfortunately we are all different species.

Are you aware this is not the single guys club?

I don't think it is ok. Cheating is cheating. Unfortunately life has many twist and turns. It is easy to judge another persons action. Until you are in their shoes and feel their pain, feel their sorrow, feel their tears you will never know.

We all will be judged one day. Hopefully, there will be empathy.

Yes you are so right .

Yes, you can say it's cheating. And I wouldn't like it if my wife was cheating. But sometimes it gets to the point that it doesn't matter as much as it used to if the feelings aren't there anymore. I might even be able to accept it if she cheated and I cheated, so long as we both come home and fulfill our household responsibilities, be great parents, and treat each other with a certain level of respect and affection. If cheating can alleviate the tension and give both an outlet, then it can work. I often joke with her when she goes on business trips and she asks what kind of partying I'll be doing, I say "what you don't know won't hurt you". And another saying that works, " don't ask, don't tell".
I never have nor expect to "cheat" on my wife. And I know she'll never cheat on me because she just doesn't think about sex enough obviously. Also too lazy to expend the energy needed to maintain an outside relationship. But amps can at least provide some kind of variety and mental stimulation in your life that you can look forward to absent any other avenues to achieve the same. And at my age, opportunities are drying up!

You know my situation I’m a widow my wife passed away few years a go all the time that I was married it never passed my mind . And the last thing that night she passed she ask me if I loved her and that was her lady word it took me 2 years before I had sex with on other woman . So every situation is different I’m still young I’m in my late 50 . I only can wish you guys the very best in this short life that we have

Did anyone say it is "alright"? I don't recall seeing that. But I could have missed it.

Cheating is not a great thing to do, but neither is a wife going dark on affection and sex.

The vast majority of mongers on here tell the same story. The wife's interest dropped off a lot and dried up either completely or almost so.

I wouldn't like it if my wife's cheating, but I also wouldn't go from 1x a day wanting sex to 1x every 2-3 weeks or worse. Not to mention all the rules and restrictions she has when we do stuff. After awhile you get sick of the excuses and stop asking. When I asked my wife would always have a reason why - usually I don't feel good, whatever, or she has some pain somewhere. So then I would even ask if she can at least help me out. I would get turned down for that also, because her mentality is she doesn't want to do anything if she isn't in the mood. I understand that a bit, but it's also quite selfish.

I truly wish my marriage didn't turn out this way. But I can't just walk away at this point and I won't be unless I get busted. If it happens so be it. Life will be terrible for awhile but as with any tragedy "this too shall pass".

I find it interesting that religion is almost never discussed on this site.
While we mongers shutter at the simple fact of running across another monger(with heads down) what happens when we’re all in the same big room and that prized bbj includes jagged teeth and razor wire. that expert pm you all fantasize about includes a baseball bat and bolts of electricity. Sorry, it’s back ordered due to Covid… their all out of lube for a century!

If is the breaking of some oath, what do you call a female who will no ever have any sex with you ever again for the rest of your life AND demand that you never go get it someplace else? Does she break some oath with this action?

Ha! Remind me to add this situation to the marriage vows, if I ever tie the knot. Something to the effect of, "Promise to love, honor, obey and make sure you have access to prime sex once a week, till death do us part". *Addendum: prime sex may be in substituted form, if wife not feeling it this week!. "I do!".

I got married in my mid twenties. When you are that young, you tend to think in terms of how things are at that moment. While you know that you and your bride will get old one day, it is not something you think a lot about, let alone predict with any accuracy. At least in my case, I wrongly imagined that things would be the same way forever even as we aged. I knew what the dictionary definition of menopause was, but I did not really KNOW what it was until I went through it with my wife. I also knew a helluva lot less about women in general; back then, my default was to put them on a pedestal. It's not that I was stupid (well, maybe a little), it was that I didn't know what I didn't know.

My point is that when most people take the vows, they do so with a rose-colored view of the world and of the future. Especially when they are young. I know when I took the vows I meant every word. I really believed there was no excuse for adultery and going to hookers was for total losers. If someone had told me as late as age 40 that I would be doing what I'm doing now, I would have called them loony. I just never thought I'd need to cheat. But, I did because I was just not getting sex anymore and I still had a very active sex drive. Maybe that makes me a bad person, but I don't think so. Aside from my extracurricular activities, my wife and I still have a great marriage.

Ironically, my sex drive might actually be greater now than when I was a teenager. When I was a teen, I had no money, no car, no steady GF. Just a few adult mags. So I probably suppressed it a lot. Now I have everything I need to live the dream, including knowledge from years in the Hobby. My biggest constraint is my budget and free time.

What if everything you will do in the future has already happened? This concept (explained at the link) will fuck with your mind. The eggheads say it is true and maybe they are right. If it is, it sure takes the wind out of religion as we know it.

The illusion of time : past, present and future all exist together - YouTube

No . It’s… I have a headache!