Sex life at home

[Whizzard]

What if everything you will do in the future has already happened? This concept (explained at the link) will fuck with your mind. The eggheads say it is true and maybe they are right. If it is, it sure takes the wind out of religion as we know it.

The illusion of time : past, present and future all exist together - YouTube

Prepare for your cattle prod for eternity. You tube!? Hah

 

[856mixr]

Yup, sex with the Mrs gets boring. Im not one of those guys that gets little to no sex from his wife. I still get what I feel is a decent amount. That why I still monger albeit infrequently. I often go months without mongering. As for why it gets boring..

• Sex with the same woman just gets boring in general. Particularly, if you're still getting a decent amount of it. Its almost like eating your favorite meal every day.
• I have a child which means I often can only have sex a certain way, time, and place.
• The wife is in full “im comfortable and secure” mode which equates to “who cares if im not trying to stay in shape and look sexy. Hes going to love me anyway". Yes, she should be comfortable but you should still try harder to look your best for yourself and your partner (as should I). I digress...
• I don't think I fully lived out my manwhore phase due to overly long relationships with women in my youth.
• My sex drive is still pretty strong. I get those strong urges and the monger in me kicks in.

 

[scapp67]

This is a really good thread and I appreciate everyone sharing their situations as I am going through much of the same myself as I am 30 years married and now a once a month at home is the norm. We did go away to celebrate the anniversary last year on vacation without kids for the first time ever to a nice place we’ve been to before. We knew there was not much to explore or do so it gave us time to rekindle. We actually did it daily on that trip. Felt like we were dating again.
Since then it’s been routine again. We are empty nesters btw. Now I do monger at least weekly and I’ve been in the hobby since before marriage. During the first few years though I went on hiatus then may have mongered occasionally. Only other hiatus was during Covid resuming only a year ago.
I cover my activities as well as I can. Luckily I handle all finances but she does have access to view if she likes. There are other accounts she knows we have but hardly use so that’s a means for me.
We did discuss her lack of desire. She has gained some weight but I still find her desirable. I let her know every day on the off chance she’s in the mood which is hardly. Her excuse is she doesn’t feel good about herself. She’s trying though to shed the weight. We’ll see if it changes her attitude.
Thanks again to my brother mongers for sharing your experiences her!

 

[mitchxy1]

Yup, sex with the Mrs gets boring. Im not one of those guys that gets little to no sex from his wife. I still get what I feel is a decent amount. That why I still monger albeit infrequently. I often go months without mongering. As for why it gets boring..

• Sex with the same woman just gets boring in general. Particularly, if you're still getting a decent amount of it. Its almost like eating your favorite meal every day.
• I have a child which means I often can only have sex a certain way, time, and place.
• The wife is in full “im comfortable and secure” mode which equates to “who cares if im not trying to stay in shape and look sexy. Hes going to love me anyway". Yes, she should be comfortable but you should still try harder to look your best for yourself and your partner (as should I). I digress...
• I don't think I fully lived out my manwhore phase due to overly long relationships with women in my youth.
• My sex drive is still pretty strong. I get those strong urges and the monger in me kicks in.

Ditto. Every single word.

 

[AutomaticSlim]

Prepare for your cattle prod for eternity. You tube!? Hah

 

[asiansmakemehappy]

I've been married for over 30 years. The first few years were awesome from a sex perspective. But after the first 5 years of marriage, especially after our 2nd child was born, our sex life started to decline. Luckily, it was a long, slow decline. In 2001, I started going to AMPs. Went many years getting anything more than a HE. Had a few offers of FS though. These intrigued and excited me, but as long as my wife was giving "milk", I didn't do anything about it. I was too scared of the legal and marital implications. Unfortunately, the quality of the milk was getting worse all the time. About 6 years ago, after menopause, my wife told me she really didn't want sex anymore. By that time, I wasn't even that mad because I had become so unsatisfied without our sex life. After that, its been full steam ahead on getting FS externally from AMPs, SBs and the occasional civvie. I really don't feel guilty about it at all. In a way, it surprises me because, in my youth, I really believed adultery was wrong and that men who went to prostitutes were total losers. Aside from the financial cost, I could not be happier. While I don't regret getting married, I'd often wish I'd sown my wild oats more than I did before marriage. In some ways, by shutting off the milk, I feel like my wife let me out of prison.

I'm on 2nd marriage and she is going through menopause as well and she says it always hurts cause to big ,so I don't feel bad about all the beautiful delicious women at amps I've been with ,it's a an uplifter for my manhood !!

 

[petemoss]

I was infatuated with my wife. She pushed me away physically and mentally. My mind goes into protective mode. I really don't like her kissing or touching me now. I'm physically attracted to her until she touches me.

Too much pain.

 

[solomon_456]

I was infatuated with my wife. She pushed me away physically and mentally. My mind goes into protective mode. I really don't like her kissing or touching me now. I'm physically attracted to her until she touches me.

Too much pain.

You need some emotional healing

 

[DS71]

Interesting topic, just read the last page or two of posts. I am not married but have developed a theory just based on observation that I call the 10/80/10 theory. 10% of guys won't cheat of their wife under any circumstances. Really hot women is coming on them and there is almost zero chance of getting caught, they will decline. 10% of guys wake up in the morning and are looking for opportunities to get something going with nearly every woman they interact with. The waitress at the local diner, co-workers, women they bump into at the grocery store, women at the bar, etc. Many also probably monger as well. Then there is the 80%. Many in this group don't cheat because it's too risky, too difficult, worry about the guilt, don't know about or live in area where mongering is prevalent BUT..... given the right set of circumstances they would. Maybe they are currently satisfied with their sex lives at home but if things declined, they would start to think about other options. Maybe they wouldn't in the US but if they were on a business trip in Thailand they would. This is just a theory based on observations.

 

[mitchxy1]

Seems like a fair assessment of men in general. I might raise the numbers to 20/65/15. There are many men out there that don't have the game/resources/time/knowledge/looks/money to cheat, with few friends or venues to meet women.

 

[Doublednyc]

I've been married for over 30 years. The first few years were awesome from a sex perspective. But after the first 5 years of marriage, especially after our 2nd child was born, our sex life started to decline. Luckily, it was a long, slow decline. In 2001, I started going to AMPs. Went many years getting anything more than a HE. Had a few offers of FS though. These intrigued and excited me, but as long as my wife was giving "milk", I didn't do anything about it. I was too scared of the legal and marital implications. Unfortunately, the quality of the milk was getting worse all the time. About 6 years ago, after menopause, my wife told me she really didn't want sex anymore. By that time, I wasn't even that mad because I had become so unsatisfied without our sex life. After that, its been full steam ahead on getting FS externally from AMPs, SBs and the occasional civvie. I really don't feel guilty about it at all. In a way, it surprises me because, in my youth, I really believed adultery was wrong and that men who went to prostitutes were total losers. Aside from the financial cost, I could not be happier. While I don't regret getting married, I'd often wish I'd sown my wild oats more than I did before marriage. In some ways, by shutting off the milk, I feel like my wife let me out of prison.

My thoughts exactly!

 

[Doublednyc]

Not all households have a single account. We have 3 accounts. 1 for the house where we each deposit a significant part of our paychecks. We each have a personal account for whatever we want. I don't complain about her shoes, she doesn't complain about my massages.

You probably see the shoes when she comes home - and parades in front of you to show them off. Does she know about your massages?

 

[tblusnyc]

Interesting topic, just read the last page or two of posts. I am not married but have developed a theory just based on observation that I call the 10/80/10 theory. 10% of guys won't cheat of their wife under any circumstances. Really hot women is coming on them and there is almost zero chance of getting caught, they will decline. 10% of guys wake up in the morning and are looking for opportunities to get something going with nearly every woman they interact with. The waitress at the local diner, co-workers, women they bump into at the grocery store, women at the bar, etc. Many also probably monger as well. Then there is the 80%. Many in this group don't cheat because it's too risky, too difficult, worry about the guilt, don't know about or live in area where mongering is prevalent BUT..... given the right set of circumstances they would. Maybe they are currently satisfied with their sex lives at home but if things declined, they would start to think about other options. Maybe they wouldn't in the US but if they were on a business trip in Thailand they would. This is just a theory based on observations.

Like Chris Rock famously said - “A man is only as faithful as his options”

 

[kantuchdis]

4+ year old thread - whats old is new

 

[Underscores]

Not if you're pacing it out. A buck fifty to two hundred every couple of months? Won't even notice.

This post didn't age well in regards to inflation.

 

[richardp2918]

While I am not married, I've had girlfriends and what always got me more into banging my gf was to role play as if we're re-enacting a porn scene...or are porn actors having to film a scene...or making a porn scene about being a monger at an amp and she's the new girl, etc etc.

I would usually introduce the idea of role playing after watching porn with my gf and that would make it seem a natural progression. There's something very meta about banging your gf while she pretends she's a ho.

 

[Thankyoumaam]

I got married in my mid twenties. When you are that young, you tend to think in terms of how things are at that moment. While you know that you and your bride will get old one day, it is not something you think a lot about, let alone predict with any accuracy. At least in my case, I wrongly imagined that things would be the same way forever even as we aged. I knew what the dictionary definition of menopause was, but I did not really KNOW what it was until I went through it with my wife. I also knew a helluva lot less about women in general; back then, my default was to put them on a pedestal. It's not that I was stupid (well, maybe a little), it was that I didn't know what I didn't know.

My point is that when most people take the vows, they do so with a rose-colored view of the world and of the future. Especially when they are young. I know when I took the vows I meant every word. I really believed there was no excuse for adultery and going to hookers was for total losers. If someone had told me as late as age 40 that I would be doing what I'm doing now, I would have called them loony. I just never thought I'd need to cheat. But, I did because I was just not getting sex anymore and I still had a very active sex drive. Maybe that makes me a bad person, but I don't think so. Aside from my extracurricular activities, my wife and I still have a great marriage.

Ironically, my sex drive might actually be greater now than when I was a teenager. When I was a teen, I had no money, no car, no steady GF. Just a few adult mags. So I probably suppressed it a lot. Now I have everything I need to live the dream, including knowledge from years in the Hobby. My biggest constraint is my budget and free time.

Same for me. Plus throw in a good dose of fear against sowing my wild oats as my college years were during the AIDS epidemic and I knew a couple of people who died.

 

[Blitzen]

This need not be an issue, because the smart way is to have your own separate funding base for these activities from what is expected to be in your general, common accounts. You keep cash aside from whatever extra source you may have (interest, dividends, gifts, prizes, etc.) that never shows up on the bank statements.

 

[Blitzen]

How can the wives be so oblivious? Even if you've got excuses for where you've been, what about the finances? Doesn't the Mrs. ever take a look at the bank statement and think "Hmm, I thought we'd have more than that..."?

See #78 below-

 

[Mrxnewtoy]

I’m in a very active amp area and married to my wife 20 years now. We went to therapy about 10 years ago and part of our convo there was making time for each other to be intimate AT LEAST once a week. I saw that as a compromise as I’d be happy with at least 2-3 times a week. My other urges with that frequency could be easily satisfied with jerking off. But once it became 1-2 times a month and I found the far reaches of pornhub boring me amp visits started and now have become a 3-4 time a month thing. Its actually made me feel like I still have mojo as strange as it sounds. Some lovely young ladies in my neck of the wood and since I do keep in good shape and am still in my 40s they are genuinely excited usually. Love some drippy wet pussy from a sweet Viet girl 15 years younger than me )