This is apples and oranges. Better comparison is, visiting an AMP right after someone infected has been with the same girl, vs grocery store if someone infected has been in the same aisle. AMP is much more risky (smaller, enclosed space, poor air circulation, high proximity to the girl). Basic physics of dispersion. Even saying a grocery store "with bad ventilation" doesn't change this (large volume of air, doors to the outdoors opening and closing). AMPs obviously are not known for their ventilation either. They are small, cramped, shitty little spaces for fucking, as much as we love them.
Having said that, rates are way down. 1% of tests are positive currently, with less than 200 new cases per day. I also note that Asians have the lowest case rate of any ethnic group in the NYC stats, 40% lower than white people.
https://www1.nyc.gov/site/doh/covid/covid-19-data.page. I personally am not partaking but I do think the risk is a lot lower now than it was a few months ago.