How often is too often

[haaretz]

I have two regulars. I'm able to go out 2-3 times a month. They're escorts, not spa girls.

The consistent visits and friendship (paid friendship but friendship nonetheless) creates a deeper intimacy. And it's their job to keep me returning for business. I'm a 60 year old with no interest in getting emotionally attached to a sex worker nearly half my age so that's why I alternate. And nice.

4 visits a month is too much for me, over a thousand. It's a matter of diminishing returns. I'm married and have very little free time so the choreography of carving out 2-3 hours of a day on a weekly basis is stressful. Which is what paid companionship should not be, right?

 

[VJLUTZ]

It depends on your libido and your means. Don't go so often that you can't pay your bills or afford a decent retirement. Likewise, don't go so often that you lose your mojo (see other thread on this).

If I could afford it and had the time, I'd probably go 3-5X a week, depending on my mood.

When I first started the hobby, I'd do once a month (HJ only back then). But that was a different time and my kids still lived at home (pre college). Now, as a practical matter, I'll go once a week at full price (SA or AMP). There is someone else I can see where I only have to pay for the motel. If I can meet her, I'll do 2X a week.

 

[Srhsrh]

I'm a same girl at each spa kind normally, i like to keep 3-4 spas in the mix, try to see each girl at least once every couple weeks and go 2-3 times a week. Add a new spa when all my regular girls are back in the city instead of trying a new girl at the same spa. I've found its much less friction and drama that way. My loyalty is to the girl, not the shop. If I've found a girl I like, i follow her to a new spa, not check her replacement at the old spa. I have had situations where i really want another girl in the same spa and have jumped when my regular girl left, or went away a few days. But i've regretted it, these girls always talk to each other.

 

[feetguy1]

I like being with the same masseuse. I was with my favorite masseuse for 6 years. During that time, she worked at a spa nearby and then she moved to a spa 30 minutes away. I still followed her until she moved 3,000 miles away. She and I kept each other's contact information until she made the move 3,000 miles away. Since then, I lost contact with her. She may have changed her number since. I think about her at times but I had to move on and find another favorite.

 

[Nicksuperlover]

Never is too often silly

 

[RJ7]

I have a question, do any of you visit the same girl each time?

I haven't had the pleasure of seeing the same girl on consecutive visits. I've never experienced picking from a lineup. It's a crapshoot when I go. It sucks in a way because I do have a favorite but I only get her on every other or third visit. Never consecutive.

 

[mikemendez]

I haven't had the pleasure of seeing the same girl on consecutive visits. I've never experienced picking from a lineup. It's a crapshoot when I go. It sucks in a way because I do have a favorite but I only get her on every other or third visit. Never consecutive.

Early on I was in the same boat, then it occurred to me to get their cell number and eventually WeChat ID.

 

[casualplayer]

Here's the thing. Mike will agree. If you find someone you like and they "do it for you" then don't wait to get get the info to keep in touch. We Chat is awesome! Unless they block you and that's happened to me then you can always know where they move to. Sometimes you have to kind of push the issue because they think they will get in trouble for giving it out. Just get it and schedule with her first then call the shop and schedule. Works great. Then when they leave you can get them again.

 

[mikemendez]

Here's the thing. Mike will agree. If you find someone you like and they "do it for you" then don't wait to get get the info to keep in touch. We Chat is awesome! Unless they block you and that's happened to me then you can always know where they move to. Sometimes you have to kind of push the issue because they think they will get in trouble for giving it out. Just get it and schedule with her first then call the shop and schedule. Works great. Then when they leave you can get them again.

I utilized their number/WeChat especially when wanting a session with a extra friendly provider, I’d contact her en route, she would wave me In or give me her timeline. The FS shop mama’s typically prohibited girls from giving personal contact info, we’d kept it on the down low, it usually worked as I walked into a busy spa and my favorite was next up, due to her telling me to wait a few until she was up, I’m assuming mama to have suspected something was up, although mama never made an issue of it, after a while mama would automatically give me favorite or a second favorite.

 

[mikemendez]

Hello fellow mongers. I'm just curious and looking to get a feel from others on how often you go to your "go to" spot. Just wondering if anyone has experienced turning off the provider(s) by visiting too often or is it encouraged as long as you wallet can support it? I visited my favorite spot two nights ago and I'm kind of in the mood to visit again tonight. Not sure if they will find that weird to return so soon. What is the recommended break time in between visits?

Thanks in advance for your feedback and stay safe out there.

The other aspect of “how often is to often”,
Is doing just that, visiting to often or as in my case every time I got the urge, it’s proven to be an issue, once to many consecutive times to the AMP well, it’s become lackluster, I’m a all or nothing type of person. I’m not suggesting I’m done, but for the time being I’m experiencing a lack of interest. It’s been almost two weeks now and I’ve only gotten a strictly therapeutic massage in this time frame. Call it burned out or what have you. I’ve also grown tired of responding/answering PMs, nothing against anyone on this site, just need a break from it all. I’ve tried in the past to visit a provider less, to no avail, lol. In response to your original question, I’ve known some providers that were turned off by a guy that was more into her and she not wanting more than keeping it a business transaction, basically he was hounding her for more than the hour visit, eventually he was blacklisted from her shop, she was in my opinion, afraid of this guy.

 

[Uniquelyme]

The other aspect of “how often is to often”,
Is doing just that, visiting to often or as in my case every time I got the urge, it’s proven to be an issue, once to many consecutive times to the AMP well, it’s become lackluster, I’m a all or nothing type of person. I’m not suggesting I’m done, but for the time being I’m experiencing a lack of interest. It’s been almost two weeks now and I’ve only gotten a strictly therapeutic massage in this time frame. Call it burned out or what have you. I’ve also grown tired of responding/answering PMs, nothing against anyone on this site, just need a break from it all. I’ve tried in the past to visit a provider less, to no avail, lol. In response to your original question, I’ve known some providers that were turned off by a guy that was more into her and she not wanting more than keeping it a business transaction, basically he was hounding her for more than the hour visit, eventually he was blacklisted from her shop, she was in my opinion, afraid of this guy.

Dude just take a break. I've taken an 8 mo break and it's awesome.

 

[Srhsrh]

I haven't had the pleasure of seeing the same girl on consecutive visits. I've never experienced picking from a lineup. It's a crapshoot when I go. It sucks in a way because I do have a favorite but I only get her on every other or third visit. Never consecutive.

As a customer it’s your right to get who you want. Not sure what you’re doing, but you start by getting her name and calling to make an appointment, then walking if she isn’t available when you come. Personally I don’t like lineups, it’s demeaning to the women. I don’t lock into a girl either in a new spa, until I’ve seen all the girls. But after that an appointment is golden and should always be honored. Having her cell, kakao, QQ, or wechat is what you need next. Most girls give it after a couple visits, particularly if they find out you walked when she wasn’t available and you got bait and switched. Then you use the contact to establish her schedule and then call the shop.

 

[VJLUTZ]

Early on I was in the same boat, then it occurred to me to get their cell number and eventually WeChat ID.

One problem is the overhead required for maintaining a "stable" of girls. Each girl requires attention and some require more texting than others. While a girl who texts you a lot is definitely interested (& an ego booster), unless you're seeing her a lot it becomes high maintenance, low return. It does kind of make you appreciate those girls who don't text a lot (low maintenance).

The other thing is that if you text them on a regular basis, they expect you to see them on a regular basis. Nice if you want to get laid, but bad for your wallet (unless you can see them on their break for free, or almost free).

I've found that about having five (5) active contacts is all I can handle. More than this and it becomes too time consuming AND expensive. It also become too easy to make mistakes. Like texting a message meant for one girl to another. Or worse, a picture. I've done that before. Luckily, I've become skilled at tap dancing.

My ideal is to have a stable of low maintenance girls who will see me on demand for free (or for the cost of lunch and a motel room). Hasn't happened yet, but I can dream.

 

[VJLUTZ]

I haven't had the pleasure of seeing the same girl on consecutive visits. I've never experienced picking from a lineup. It's a crapshoot when I go. It sucks in a way because I do have a favorite but I only get her on every other or third visit. Never consecutive.

You should call before you visit and make an appointment. If they don't honor that appointment, then walk. I grant that sometimes that's hard to do, especially if you have to carve precious time out from your day to visit an AMP. If a girl is really an ATF, then communicating with her on a SM app (WeChat, KakaoTalk) really is a must. If she won't give you her contact info, then you may want to move on to another girl. I've had the a few claim they don't use these apps, but really they ALL do.

 

[Srhsrh]

Or worse, a picture. I've done that before. Luckily, I've become skilled at tap dancing.

You shouldnt be sending dick picks on wechat. Now the Chinese government has some dirt on you.

My problem with confusing girls happens when they change their account photo. I never pay much attention to the names on the account. I memorize the profile photos.
Then I'll get a hello from a photo i dont recognize offering something like a free 4hand with a new girl, and have to spend some time trying to figure out who i am talking to.

 

[VJLUTZ]

You shouldnt be sending dick picks on wechat. Now the Chinese government has some dirt on you.

Really not sure how the Chicom gov could leverage my dic pics. I haven't had sex with my wife in so long, she has probably forgotten what my dick looks like. Besides, I could always claim someone hacker hijacked my laptop camera and snapped 'em w/o my knowledge. Or it was photoshopped. Plausible deniability. But I'm thinking they'd want to focus their intelligence assets on bigger fish than me. Though I would not mind them screwing up and sending me a honeypot to fuck for a few months.

Seriously though, the problem is when I'm posting a pic to multiple girls and accidentally post the same pic to the same girl twice in a short period of time. Luckily, they usually say something like "Honey, you send me this before" and never pursue it much further. Or sometimes I'll ask a question meant for another girl and they'll say "Strange question" or "Why you ask that?". I can usually attribute the issue to a translator problem. Unlike Western women, they are more likely to shrug this stuff off.

 

[Koondog]

One problem is the overhead required for maintaining a "stable" of girls. Each girl requires attention and some require more texting than others. While a girl who texts you a lot is definitely interested (& an ego booster), unless you're seeing her a lot it becomes high maintenance, low return. It does kind of make you appreciate those girls who don't text a lot (low maintenance).

The other thing is that if you text them on a regular basis, they expect you to see them on a regular basis. Nice if you want to get laid, but bad for your wallet (unless you can see them on their break for free, or almost free).

I've found that about having five (5) active contacts is all I can handle. More than this and it becomes too time consuming AND expensive. It also become too easy to make mistakes. Like texting a message meant for one girl to another. Or worse, a picture. I've done that before. Luckily, I've become skilled at tap dancing.

My ideal is to have a stable of low maintenance girls who will see me on demand for free (or for the cost of lunch and a motel room). Hasn't happened yet, but I can dream.

"My ideal is to have a stable of low maintenance girls who will see me on demand for free (or for the cost of lunch and a motel room)"

Now THAT's the shit. I think for that to happen the girl pretty much has to consider you a full-fledged BF tho.

 

[East Lake II]

I have a question, do any of you visit the same girl each time?

Yes

 

[East Lake II]

Most girls like to keep customers in rotation. There are emotional, and business reasons for that. They don't like to get emotionally attached to one and they know you will get tired of them, if you visit them too often.

I don’t think it’s the providers that like to keep customers in rotation, it’s the owner managers who like to keep customers in rotation. The provider isn’t about to give up a source of money.

 

[East Lake II]

What I really don't like is when I have a "regular" girl that I see each time and then one day I want to try a "new" girl and "regular girl" gives me dirty looks or puppy dog eyes. Like I'm cheating on her or something. Then I find myself hoping that "regular girl" is busy or on a Flushing vacation when I call for a reservation or just walk in. It's annoying.

Worse is the all the trash talk and shit they give each other if you see someone other than your regular.