Mixed Marriages with Asian Women

[mitchxy1]

Following on the thread about What is it about Asian Women that you like, I was curious about the Non-Asian men who marry Asian women. Is it what you expected? Are they still feminine? Know how to take care of their man? Know their role? Still slim? Still desirable? Willing to satisfy your urges and needs?

I myself am Chinese and have numerous in-laws that are Chinese and female who have only dated and married Caucasian men. In fact, almost all of them. This goes for my contemporaries and their daughters. However, they are American and not likely to be as traditional as the AMP girls we meet. I'm sure the experience will vary depending on if they are immigrants or native Americans, but I'm just wondering if expectations have been met or has the act of marriage taken the pressure off so that they get lazy?

If you're one of these non- Asian men, let me know if your Asian wife is American or not and if expectations were met.
Thanks.

 

[kgmspa]

I will only say I always love her! Most beautiful girl in the world! For me!

 

[marauder1969]

My wife grew up in Korean and has pretty traditional values. I provide for the family and she takes care of the home and kids. We are both happy in those roles. In those respects, things are pretty much as I expected them to be.

The only disappointing part is her complete disinterest in sex. She takes care of me, but has no desire herself and it often shows.... For the first few years she tried harder, even looking into natural remedies to try and increase drive. But the reality is, she not only does not have drive, she has almost no sensitivity there, so pleasure eludes her. I married a sex worker, only to end up with a sub-par sex life.... Oh, the irony..

But, on the whole, it not being my first marriage, it is definitely my best marriage.

 

[mitchxy1]

My wife grew up in Korean and has pretty traditional values. I provide for the family and she takes care of the home and kids. We are both happy in those roles. In those respects, things are pretty much as I expected them to be.

The only disappointing part is her complete disinterest in sex. She takes care of me, but has no desire herself and it often shows.... For the first few years she tried harder, even looking into natural remedies to try and increase drive. But the reality is, she not only does not have drive, she has almost no sensitivity there, so pleasure eludes her. I married a sex worker, only to end up with a sub-par sex life.... Oh, the irony..

But, on the whole, it not being my first marriage, it is definitely my best marriage.

So she was a sex worker? That was probably hard to overcome, no? And she doesn't even enjoy it? How unfortunate for her, AND you! For me personally, even if she took care of my needs, it's still not enjoyable and would eventually just kill all desire with her. That's one thing I'll never understand, why women don't really enjoy sex that much as compared to men, not even close. We crave it where they can take it or leave it...
Glad you're happy though!!! And her being a former worker, does she understand your need for outside satisfaction?

 

[marauder1969]

So she was a sex worker? That was probably hard to overcome, no? And she doesn't even enjoy it? How unfortunate for her, AND you! That's one thing I'll never understand, why women don't really enjoy sex that much as compared to men, not even close. We crave it where they can take it or leave it...
Glad you're happy though!!! And her being a former worker, does she understand your need for outside satisfaction?

Her being a sex worker was not an issue for me to overcome in the way that you probably think it was. I understand the work requires you to live in a world of lies, so building trust was initially a challenge.

She was a sex worker, but has traditional values. It is a strange thing to wrap your head around. For her too, I think she struggles with that. On one hand, "HER" husband would never go to a sex worker (that is what happens to other wives - not you)... but on the other hand, she understands it. It is still best that I am discreet - and we almost never talk about it.

 

[Massage Vet]

My wife was born in Thailand and her family came to the USA when she was young. While she is very American, now, her parents always instill the traditional values.

After 22 years of being together she's still feminine. Still knows how to take care of me and our kids. Still knows her role very well. She is well taken care of financially and has all the luxury she can handle. Im on the road alot and always "doing my thing". Shes not stupid. She turns a blind eye because of the traditional asian values of family and marriage. She keeps herself looking amazing and is always ready for me. She loves the lifestyle she has and for her its more important for her family to see her in a high standard than anything else.

 

[DrHappy88]

That's one thing I'll never understand, why women don't really enjoy sex that much as compared to men, not even close. We crave it where they can take it or leave it...

I think the difference between men and women boils down to this: Making a baby is usually fun and easy. Carrying, birthing and nursing a baby is not.

 

[mitchxy1]

I think the difference between men and women boils down to this: Making a baby is usually fun and easy. Carrying, birthing and nursing a baby is not.

That still doesn't explain why they don't enjoy "making the baby" with birth control being used. Each time I have sex, I'm not expecting a baby! And there are plenty of other ways to pleasure each other that they care for much either.

 

[Koujiao]

That still doesn't explain why they don't enjoy "making the baby" with birth control being used. Each time I have sex, I'm not expecting a baby! And there are plenty of other ways to pleasure each other that they care for much either.

Maybe this...Some guys are grotesque, ugly, repulsive, and/or worse. Women can turn themselves off and tune these guys out. The guy will go rogue, hitting the pay for sex parade.

After a while he starts to think that because a woman will have sex with him for money, they really like him for his amazing character, wit, intelligence and stellar qualities, he believes he is suddenly desirable beyond any norm, and he is willing to believe the fake moans and other social constructs they have launched at him, all designed to inflate his fragile ego.

They laugh at him when he leaves, and knows he is a dog chasing his red rocket, soon to be back. They give him just enough, but never enough....pavlov's dog. He justifies his activity by claiming he went rogue because his wife dried up, which is true. She finds him undesirable, prefers to avoid the nausea of being intimate with him, and has other ways to take care of herself.

As long as he continues to lie to himself, and leaves her alone, she is satisfied.

 

[mikemendez]

Maybe this...Some guys are grotesque, ugly, repulsive, and/or worse. Women can turn themselves off and tune these guys out. The guy will go rogue, hitting the pay for sex parade.

After a while he starts to think that because a woman will have sex with him for money, they really like him for his amazing character, wit, intelligence and stellar qualities, he believes he is suddenly desirable beyond any norm, and he is willing to believe the fake moans and other social constructs they have launched at him, all designed to inflate his fragile ego.

They laugh at him when he leaves, and knows he is a dog chasing his red rocket, soon to be back. They give him just enough, but never enough....pavlov's dog. He justifies his activity by claiming he went rogue because his wife dried up, which is true. She finds him undesirable, prefers to avoid the nausea of being intimate with him, and has other ways to take care of herself.

As long as he continues to lie to himself, and leaves her alone, she is satisfied.

He’s a good provider, earns very well, she is very comfortable, she doesn’t have to work.
She prefers him to visit AMPs or other pros and keep him off of her. You ever see this type of couple out in public, you see them together and wonder how the F he got her to marry him,
$cha-ching$

 

[TGBeldin]

Interesting post. Thanks for starting it.

I am not married to an Asian lady, so I cannot comment first hand. I do have two Asian ladies I am friends with and we have talked about this. Two very different stories, which reinforces that there is no single stereotype that works.

Friend #1: Chinese, raised in a very old school Chinese family. Had a discrete, smaller clientele. Tall, thin, beautiful looking (she did some professional fashion modeling). Eventually she was taken off the market by a rich businessman as his mistress. She and I stayed in contact for years (eventually he died, left her some money, and she moved to Hong Kong to be with her extended family). Once she became his courtesan mistress she treated him like a king in a very traditional way. She was happy because she reasoned it was a far better lifestyle than she would otherwise have. She said she didn't mind the sex with him--he was gently and not very demanding--but would have like more. Her sex drive was definitely higher than his but she did not see anyone else, and his was apparently higher than his wife's (essentially the wife was asexual at that point). But the sex was certainly not the only reason he took care of my friend. It was the other aspects of attention and keeping his interest as well.

Friend #2: Half Japanese, raised by her Japanese mother & grandmother. Hardly knew her father at all. Raised with a lot of Japanese influenced American culture. She worked for almost 20 years, then got out of the business because she said a growing percentage that an increasing number of men just didn't respect a woman. She was the type that expected to be respected--including her VERY few limits--and would in return be exceedingly generous and outgoing. After she retired she has moved in with three successive men, in each case she had the intent that it would lead to marriage. In all three cases she stopped seeing any other guys at all and treated the guy very well (looks, cooking, personality are all B+ or better; in bed she is the closest thing I have ever met to a sex addict, and an A+ by any reasonable measure). In all three cases the guys cheated on her after saying they would be monogamous, and she dropped them. I am not condemning them, I don't know their thought process or reasons, but there was no way in hell it was because she was not open to enough sex.

Anyway, interesting thread. I hope more folks post other interesting topics.

 

[marauder1969]

Maybe this...Some guys are grotesque, ugly, repulsive, and/or worse.

I'm sure this is the case sometimes... but as a point of fact, some women just do not have the sex drive of others. And low libido is much more common in women than men. Sensitivity is a secondary issue, but perhaps related to libido... My first and second wives enjoyed sex. My second wife was very sensitive and squirted quite a lot with orgasm, which was popular in our Internet porn days.... But my current wife just does not get pleasure from intercourse, manual or oral stimulation. According to her, this is a lifelong issue, from before her working days.

Mitchxy1's comment about why women tend to enjoy sex less than men is a curious thing. I think it is partially related to biology, partially related to psychology and partially derived from societal norms... and to some extent, your response applies as well....

 

[Massage Vet]

That still doesn't explain why they don't enjoy "making the baby" with birth control being used. Each time I have sex, I'm not expecting a baby! And there are plenty of other ways to pleasure each other that they care for much either.

This is not the case for me.

Before I got married I had more free sex then I could handle.

After we tied the knot I came to the reality that as much as I loved and cared for my wife and she loves me just as much. Along with having two beautiful children I could never be without her but still need to satify my asian cravings.

So I went the monger route and instead of chasing free pussy I just get all the pussy I want everyday and then play hubby and daddy.

No finacial worries so the money os never an issue.

My wife still looks super young and wants me to bang her all the time.

Alot of times I have to make excuses to avoid her.

After 4 nutts at the parlors im usually on empty.

If it wasnt for the V. I would be in trouble.

At the end of the day its all gravy.

 

[kgmspa]

I have never been married. I never intend too!

 

[kgmspa]

Why she really never love me! Just money! Love of money!

 

[TGBeldin]

Why she really never love me! Just money! Love of money!

When you look at it that way, it becomes a self fulfilling profacy.

 

[kgmspa]

When you look at it that way, it becomes a self fulfilling profacy.

Perhaps

 

[mikemendez]

Women do too enjoy sex, good , skilled sex as much if not more than a man, barring health issues. Lots of men claim their wives don’t enjoy having sex with them, she prolly still loves sex, you just ain’t bringing it like when you were younger or same ol same, you’re done and off of her before she has the time to get fully aroused.

 

[mikemendez]

Way before ever even thinking about this P4P hobby I boned quite a few wives, they all shared the same complaint for the most part that is, “he only wants to pleasure himself” or “ he doesn’t last long enough for me to have at least one orgasm” or “ he won’t listen to what I want in bed”.

 

[Hardrobert]

You old dog Mendez... say it ain't so, you banged other men's wives? Wonder if it is the same ones I did? The thing is, they were all so appreciative.