First started mongering overseas in 1997 to prepare myself for a college first GF sweetheart breakup that should have been over with sooner but stayed on. Then mongered back in SF Bay Area 1999 after ditching that GF at the altar to mend my shattered heart. Then on and off in between relationships, including a marriage and before and after the last GF. Never mongered while I was actually in a relationship (self pat on the back for that). Been single for at least 3 years and mongering keeps me sane as needed, but now it feels like a once in a while urge. The satisfaction level compared to a great relationship + quality sex isn't the same, and the talent lately is just so so compared to pre-Covid, so a superb session is rare these days. So in a way that makes it easier for me to either walk away entirely, or just have this hobby once in a blue moon. I love fine dining, and when a session costs as much as a fancy meal or a superb bottle of wine even with $$$ more than before, I need to think more.
I guess what I'm trying to say is it really depends how much of this hobby has a hold on you, your willpower, and the value/satisfaction level you get from it. In that regard, it may be easier to ween yourself away from it if you need to. Think more with big head, less little head, when making your decision.
For those who are attached on paper as well and legally, figure out what is worth it vs your peace of mind and sanity, vs the potential loss if the SO ever discovered. In many Asian cultures it is more or less the norm, married dudes stray/monger....there's a Chinese saying that '9 out of 10 men monger, the 10th one is currently thinking about doing it'. Maybe not all of them, but if it were to happen, it isn't uncommon.