I've been married for over 30 years. The first few years were awesome from a sex perspective. But after the first 5 years of marriage, especially after our 2nd child was born, our sex life started to decline. Luckily, it was a long, slow decline. In 2001, I started going to AMPs. Went many years getting anything more than a HE. Had a few offers of FS though. These intrigued and excited me, but as long as my wife was giving "milk", I didn't do anything about it. I was too scared of the legal and marital implications. Unfortunately, the quality of the milk was getting worse all the time. About 6 years ago, after menopause, my wife told me she really didn't want sex anymore. By that time, I wasn't even that mad because I had become so unsatisfied without our sex life. After that, its been full steam ahead on getting FS externally from AMPs, SBs and the occasional civvie. I really don't feel guilty about it at all. In a way, it surprises me because, in my youth, I really believed adultery was wrong and that men who went to prostitutes were total losers. Aside from the financial cost, I could not be happier. While I don't regret getting married, I'd often wish I'd sown my wild oats more than I did before marriage. In some ways, by shutting off the milk, I feel like my wife let me out of prison.