Didn’t leave my wife

[instinctsrtrue]

Thoughts on the following....

I met a really hot 24 yo on Seeking Arrangement a couple years back- she is 20 years younger than me. Things got really heavy where we said I love you many times and talked about marriage. I stopped paying her per meet and got her an apartment.

But I decided to stay with my wife and the girl left me.

She and my wife and different.

Wife: we have two young kids. 5 years younger, but after two kids, is still pretty but not much effort on appearance. She is very cool but emotionally unavailable. Earns a couple hundred thousand per year and highly educated. Will still have sex.

SA girl: seriously is like a model, but a college drop out and cannot support herself. The sex over two years together became like marriage—she wanted less frequency. She also is bulimic. She is emotionally intimate with me, but represses and then when it boils up she can erupt or. Walk out.

I think I did the right thing. But it is hard not to be with a super hot 24 yo who you emotionally connect with.

 

[Maxon1000]

Thanks for sharing.. If we took a poll here I am quite certain that many Of us hobbyists share the same yet different stories. For us married ones, we look for the sex, emotional attachment and the moments of intimacy that have been lost in marriage..

 

[Reachme.here091]

You did the right thing in the long run. Its a no win situation no matter how you spin it. Hopefully she looses your number and any communication records, texts photos between you two.

 

[didi88]

Been there, done that..you definitely did the right thing

 

[hikeupskirts]

Don't get stressed out by too much by someone if she/he is not a your family members. It won't be helpful at all for your rock-hard erection for another lady's hole.

 

[Jaymus]

emotionally unavailable ... Will still have sex.

Very well put, in terms of characterizing the nature of the problem. A bad problem, a sad problem, but probably not fatal, maybe even room to improve things.

 

[instinctsrtrue]

Think I did the right thing? Really, I’m thinking of the kids. And that they could hate me if I leave their Mom for an unstable now 25 yo. It is so tempting to do so, but I fear I will be fucked up once things go south with this young hottie. Like maybe the only realistic chance would be in 5 years when she’s 30 and more in control. She is very special to me cuz she really gave me her all in many ways. But still, I could move on and just pay for sex at amps or other sugar babes and keep my high earning wife and not have to pay CS

 

[dbraid]

don't be a fucking idiot. you know you're being an idiot because you're writing here for permission to be a fucking idiot.

don't be the fucking idiot.

 

[Hardpoll52]

You Dodged a bullet man.

 

[didi88]

Think I did the right thing? Really, I’m thinking of the kids. And that they could hate me if I leave their Mom for an unstable now 25 yo. It is so tempting to do so, but I fear I will be fucked up once things go south with this young hottie. Like maybe the only realistic chance would be in 5 years when she’s 30 and more in control. She is very special to me cuz she really gave me her all in many ways. But still, I could move on and just pay for sex at amps or other sugar babes and keep my high earning wife and not have to pay CS

You’d just be exchanging one headache for another. Choose the lesser of two evils. Try to work things out at home or just get a divorce. Having an unstable GF on the side is not the answer

 

[Erotes]

Plus financially being with the young coed is a huge drain. Your wife at least brings in some bread which is a net positive for your net worth.

 

[Drjon7]

You have 2 kids. Hello??
I don't even like kids
but man, don't you feel some responsibility and obligation
for their well being?
Obviously not.
Sorry to say but you are one shockingly self-centered child who's willing to fuck up his own kids just to get his dick wet by some hot, lost bimbet. That's the bottom line
and that's pathetic!
Step up, be a man,
own the world you created and
next lifetime make better decisions.

 

[ampreviewernew]

I know some of you might be older than me or younger than me, but that is the only reason I try my best not to see the same girl again and again. Sugar babies are great, but it gets to a point where you get so attached. I could never do that. At the end of the day, I think you just saved your family as @dbraid and @Hardpoll52 mentioned . It is just not about the kids here. In the end, if something were to happen to you, your family would be there for you. Not that 24/25 yo who just walked out.

On a funnier note, that is how I have been losing a lot of chances to go to good spots. I go to a bar near the location for one drink, meet some nice girl at the bar, chat up with her and think I could get laid for free, but then I am scared of the outcome. I do not want the same thing that happened to you happen to me. Leave from the bar and call the spot to be told they closed already or to tell me that the provider I was looking for is busy.

 

[Jaymus]

I think it’s obvious OP cares about his kids. Otherwise it would’ve been splittsville long ago with no need to post about it on a message board.

 

[Kingfish411]

The SA chick sounds like more problems than she is worth. All she is bringing to the table is pussy and problems. Unstable and lowering sex frequency at that age is not a good sign, I bet she was getting some side dick too. Your wife does not sound too bad and is bringing bread home, emotions change over time and you sound like you need to be in love all the time. Not really how life works bro.

 

[Laoshi de laoshi]

Thoughts on the following....

I met a really hot 24 yo on Seeking Arrangement a couple years back- she is 20 years younger than me. Things got really heavy where we said I love you many times and talked about marriage. I stopped paying her per meet and got her an apartment.

But I decided to stay with my wife and the girl left me.

She and my wife and different.

Wife: we have two young kids. 5 years younger, but after two kids, is still pretty but not much effort on appearance. She is very cool but emotionally unavailable. Earns a couple hundred thousand per year and highly educated. Will still have sex.

SA girl: seriously is like a model, but a college drop out and cannot support herself. The sex over two years together became like marriage—she wanted less frequency. She also is bulimic. She is emotionally intimate with me, but represses and then when it boils up she can erupt or. Walk out.

I think I did the right thing. But it is hard not to be with a super hot 24 yo who you emotionally connect with.

Trust me. It is cheaper to keep her. You did the right thing.

 

[instinctsrtrue]

I Told an inaccurate version. I booted her out of the apartment because I was sick of her being the gatekeeper for sex. I wanted her back and she said no. She found out in May I fucked other girls, then she went out and unbeknownst to me developed a relationship with a real guy - not from
SA. So things got fucked. I suspect she was sexually abused at some point as she was not that into sex. What got me was that sex became an issue when we shifted off ppm, but I understood she fucked this other guy more freely - literally and figuratively.

But she loved me hard. Some of it was healthy hard, some unhealthy. Like one fight she had to go to the hospital she was so upset. And
All I did was tell her not to see
Me the next day because I was mad at something she did.

Maybe I was addicted to the hotness and the drama of this emotional love. I do love my kids and I am not dumb enough to leave my situation for a young girl with problems who is not self-sufficient. But it’s a tough situation for me bc it shows how tough real love can be. After all, are you guys married and so why are you on here right?

 

[Tarpon]

Yes, get your story straight. Sounds like the young one left u, and you didnt have a choice. She made the choice for you.

 

[tobonkornot]

Aside from the fact it sounds like this girl left you instead of the other way around, this just goes to show how much effort we should still be putting into our actual long term relationships & marriages. Yeah you're missing intimacy and emotional attachment but so is your partner. At least we have a more accessible outlet. Hobbying doesn't have to mean being a deadbeat husband - if anything for me it makes appreciate my partner more in a fucked up way, and you should still make the effort to initiate sex and make the occasional romantic gesture.

 

[dbraid]

holy shit man