Love the advice that everyone else gave.
Here are some steps you can take:
- Become more open with your wife about all things. It can be gradual or dramatic but it moves things forward. You don't have to tell her what you did here. And you prolly shouldn't. But maybe eventually. Don't ask me.
- Divorce might become an option but don't feel guilty about it because of your children. As long as you do it in an honest way, it'll work out. There may be those who are deadbeat dads and still in the marriage but there are those who are divorced but are still kick-ass dads.
- Maybe consider therapy or counseling.
Here are some steps you can take:
- Become more open with your wife about all things. It can be gradual or dramatic but it moves things forward. You don't have to tell her what you did here. And you prolly shouldn't. But maybe eventually. Don't ask me.
- Divorce might become an option but don't feel guilty about it because of your children. As long as you do it in an honest way, it'll work out. There may be those who are deadbeat dads and still in the marriage but there are those who are divorced but are still kick-ass dads.
- Maybe consider therapy or counseling.