"Earns a couple hundred thousand per year and highly educated. "
That right there is a great, big, bright, burning red flag to me.
A female like that is going to be very competitive towards her husband.
She's not going to be the type to stay home and do the cooking and cleaning, and worry about if you are satisfied with her.
I am not criticizing the OP for getting involved with her. To each his own.
Just saying that this type of female would not be the type to adhere to traditional male/female rolls and dynamics.
I could never put myself in that situation, even if it were available to me -- which it hasn't been.