Guys I’ve been married going on 16 years this October. My wife says we have been living like roommates for the last couple of years. We still had sex every once and awhile, out to dinner, weekend getaways every so often. But the connection is not like what it used to be. We both haven’t put our marriage first. Out of the 16 years we were married. I mongered 11 of those years. I stopped in 2018 because I wanted to be a better husband. About two years ago she had weight loss surgery and lost her mind. Partying with girlfriends every weekend. Saying she wants to enjoy life. I work six days a week sometimes up to 10-12 a day. I get home I’am tired. Plus we live in the suburbs and it’s a hour to a hour and a half ride one way to work. When I get home Saturday I don’t want to do nothing but relax while she wants to go out. She has told me to step up on my husband duties being more romantic. But what about Her cooking and cleaning around the house. So about two weeks ago I got up to use the bathroom and she was downstairs on the phone with I thought a girlfriend. It just felt strange to me because it was really late. I usually close the bedroom door but this time I didn’t. I couldn’t go back to sleep. She had was listening to music and talking at the same time but it was low enough for my to hear some of what she was saying. Then it sounded like she was playing with herself moaning and all. I want downstairs to investigate. She had her cellphone face down on her shoulder and asked if I was ok. I told her I was getting something to drink. She said she would be up soon. Also she had been drinking wine also I wouldn’t know how much until the morning. I felt really strange so want back to bed but opened the bedroom door all the way so I could better and stayed near it. Then I heard her telling whoever was on the phone how she wanted to be eaten out and how juicy her pussy was and how she wanted to cum all over his face. I ran downstairs and took her phone but the person and hung up already. I asked her who she was talking to. She said if didn’t matter. That I did care about her and didn’t love her so not to worry who she was on the phone with. She ran upstairs to the guest bedroom I followed. We argued for awhile she was drunk out of her mind. She eventually want to sleep in our bed. The next day I want to work and we spoke over the phone and both told each other we needed to talk when I got home. I thought we would discuss what happened the night before. I got home and she told me she wanted a divorce. She had been unhappy for awhile and she had enough. I’ve been unhappy also but I suffer from depression and anxiety. I love her and want to try and save the marriage but at this time she does not. I’ve wanted to monger so bad these last to years. I especially now that she says she doesn’t think we can reconcile. I’am holding out a little longer hoping she will come around and go to marriage counseling. She also swears there is no one else and the phone incident was just flirting and the alcohol took it to a extreme. I don’t know what to do thanks for listening guys.